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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:55 am
amother Honeydew wrote:
He doesn’t really have one. I basically make sure he goes to bed by 10. But I’m a more relaxed parent. I also see he’s ok and doesn’t need more sleep. Hes also mature and takes care of his showering etc in his own- I don’t micromanage. Sometimes he skips a shower at night and will then wake up early to shower instead etc. if he’s hungry he takes something to eat…


Same.
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amother
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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 10:19 am
9:30 but usually gets into bed 9:45/10... I'm pretty flexible
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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 12:07 pm
8:45
More lenient in the summer
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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 12:12 pm
He has to be in his room at 9:30. He can read or do whatever he wants in there. I don’t make a time that he has to be sleeping by. He usually shuts off his light at 10/10:30
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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 12:16 pm
9pm. If he isn't asleep by 9:30 he doesn't get up in the morning.
Recommended sleep time for this age group is 9 to 11 hours.
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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 3:05 pm
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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 3:42 pm
10-10:30
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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 3:58 pm
My 14 year old often goes to sleep by 9:15, he just crashes at the end of the day.

In contrast, my 11 year old is a big reader. He goes to bed around 9:15-9:30 and can easily stay up reading til 10 or later.
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amother
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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 4:17 pm
8:30 bed, 9 lights out. Realistically it oftentimes gets later. He needs to be up by 6.
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amother
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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 4:17 pm
amother OP wrote:
My 11 year old dd has an 8 pm bedtime.

Wondering what others do.

My older kids had a 7 pm bedtime.
My older kids have 9-10 pm bedtime.
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Post Tue, Jul 23 2024, 4:18 pm
10 pm but he falls asleep more like midnight or later
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amother
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Post Wed, Jul 24 2024, 2:59 am
She doesn't have one. She's old enough to put herself to sleep at a reasonable hour, and she does. If I find she's abusing her privilege I will gently nudge her towards bedtime. She's usually in between 10:30-11, but she doesn't have to wake up before 8:20 during the year and 9 during the summer, so she still gets plenty of sleep.

Boys need to wake up around 2 hours earlier, so my 13yo will put himself to sleep before 9:30.

Even my 10yo does his own bedtime.

I find that this is the age where it's time to start stepping back and letting them figure out their own schedule. You can guide them, but you really shouldn't be telling kids exactly when to be in bed each night once they hit their preteens.

If you continue micromanaging (like the op of the other thread) it gets harder for them to learn to do it on their own.
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Post Wed, Jul 24 2024, 4:42 am
my ten year old in the summer during camp has a bedtime of 10
if she can sleep later and there is no camp I let her stay up later.
during school when she wakes up earlier around 9 15
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amother
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Post Wed, Jul 24 2024, 9:30 am
My 10 yo/rising 5th grader- in bed by 8:30 summertime, usually awake till about 9/9:15) School was 8, but she was rarely on time. Wakes up year round about 7, but will sleep in if went to bed late.

*This 10 yo DD is a social butterfly and wants a later bedtime, while older DD is a loner and wants to be in bed earlier. So each kid and dynamic is so different!

My almost 12 yo/rising 7th grader- in bed by 9:30 can read till 9:45- summertime. School was in bed by 9, read till 9:15. Wakes up year round about 6/7, doesn't sleep late ever. Usually tired by 9, but hates going to bed while younger sis is awake - they share a room.
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