S/O What is your 11 year old's bedtime?

amother

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 8:27 am

My 11 year old dd has an 8 pm bedtime.

Wondering what others do.

amother

Razzmatazz

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 8:28 am

That’s really early for an 11 year old but if she’s fine with it, then that’s good. My ten year old’s bedtime is 9-9:30. (He is inside the house by 8.)

amother

Chicory

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 8:28 am

9 but I do move it to 8:30 for my kids that have trouble waking up on time for their bus.

Tzutzie

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 8:32 am

Officially 9. But she's rarely in bed them. More like 930-10.
Her camp bus is a 10:15-10:20 vs 8:00 for school. It's summer. I don't make a big deal out of it.
Often I'll just get into bed myself and then she will.

After 10, I'm only available for true emergencies.
If I see it's almost 10 I'll give her a huga and a good night kiss wherever she's at. No tucking in anymore.

amother

Honeydew

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 8:49 am

He doesn’t really have one. I basically make sure he goes to bed by 10. But I’m a more relaxed parent. I also see he’s ok and doesn’t need more sleep. Hes also mature and takes care of his showering etc in his own- I don’t micromanage. Sometimes he skips a shower at night and will then wake up early to shower instead etc. if he’s hungry he takes something to eat…

amother

Midnight

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 8:49 am

8 is super early, unless they have to wake up at six or earlier. I have a 9:00 bedtime for that age.

keym ↓

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 8:53 am

My 10 year old is in bed at 8:45 and reads until 9:15 or so during the year. But his bus comes at 7:45

Next week, cheder camp ends, his bedtime will be shower by 8:45, then quiet reading, playing. Into bed by 9:30. ( his camp bus wont come until 9:30)

mha3484 ↓

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 8:53 am

You should specify boy or girl because at that age, my son wasn't even home at 8. So bed time was 9:30.

↑ keym

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:06 am

mha3484 wrote:

You should specify boy or girl because at that age, my son wasn't even home at 8. So bed time was 9:30.

And also what grade.
My newly 10 year old is just finishing 4th grade. He has friends who are 9 still for another couple of months and friends who are very close to their 11th birthday. All finishing 4th grade.

amother

Hibiscus

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:08 am

11 year old DD goes to bed in the summer about 10:30-10:45 & in the winter usually by 10.

amother

Lemon

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:09 am

My 9 year olds bedtime is 8:30. 8 is really early.

↑ mha3484

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:09 am

Good point. My son turned 11 winter of 5th grade and had a chavrusa with his 6th grade friend at a local learning program.

amother

Magnolia

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:12 am

My almost 11 year old goes to bed by 8:40 in the summer it’s later alway by 9:30 if not Earlier. I also have older ones bed time was definitely about 8 with reading in bed at this age they need there sleep If I See they could wake up in the morning they can go to bed later One of my kids kept going to bed too early and would wake up 5 and couldn’t fall back sleep she felt like she needed to go to sleep even earlier but I said no you need to go to sleep later .

Hashem_Yaazor

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:17 am

My son who turns 11 in September never goes to bed before 10 and he's perfectly fine. Wakes up close to 8 usually. He starts school minyan this year though at 7:30 so we'll see how it goes. With older siblings up, it's very hard to get him to go to bed earlier.

amother

RosePink

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:19 am

Bedtime is 8:30 and they can read until they fall asleep. They wake up 6:15/6:30 to eat breakfast and get ready. Bus comes 7:15 sharp.

dankbar ↓

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:33 am

My 11 yr old boy,
in the winter had a bedtime of 9. Woke up at 630 am to make his bus right after 7. If he slept in and didn't make the bus he would walk to school, but get there timely, sometimes he'd prefer walking so he can get a little more sleep. He needs his sleep. He goes in on his own no matter what goes on around him. In spring, he needed to daven maariv, so couldn't go in so early because of the zman. Now he is in sleepover camp.

↑ dankbar

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:37 am

My kids bedtimes are usually based on what rebbe or teacher requests for the class

amother

Mayflower

Tue, Jul 23 2024, 9:37 am

I have a 12 year old who needs to wake up before 7 during the school year and I’m happy if he’s in bed by 10. He gets home from school at 5:30. How do you all enforce such early bedtimes with big kids? My son takes his time unwinding and it’s not like I can just bathe him and tuck him in anymore. Even my 8 year old id hardly in bed before 9.