Im really upset, can you help me feel better?

rachlglsr

Sat, Sep 07 2024, 6:36 pm

Op I would be so upset and have been!

I know this doesn't help right now but I have found lost earnings in the craziest of places!!!

Stuck to the inside of a sweater, behind my dresser etc. Iyh it will show up and you will have a wave of relief

otstud

Sat, Sep 07 2024, 6:50 pm

I understand your frustration. My diamond fell out of my engagement ring and I didn’t have it for years. I recently put in a lab diamond and it’s made me very happy. Btw, check into estate jewelry, just as nice, just as real, can be way cheaper.

B'Syata D'Shmya

Sat, Sep 07 2024, 7:53 pm

rachlglsr wrote:

I agree, I know someone who found her diamond ring in the folds of her bathrobe sleeve months after losing it.
Have you looked in the car, among your kids things? The laundry filter?

If it doesnt show up, please take a deep breath, say Zol Zein a Kaparah and save for a new pair.

Losing an earring is soooo common. Forgive yourself. It could have happened to anyone and you did nothing wrong.

amother

Burntblack

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 2:08 am

Yes it's fine to be upset, I lost a bracelet over Shavuous once (Yes gold was cheaper then) and I finally replaced it after more than a decade. I agree that you can buy one, hope it works.
And you never know, it may show up in the suitcase. We're with you as you get past this Heart

amother

Papayawhip

Sun, Sep 08 2024, 4:27 am

I once lost a necklace that I inherited when my mother died. It was given to her by her mother, who got it from her mother... I followed our family tradition and wore it every day, never taking it off. One day, I had to go for a CT scan and put it in my purse. I forgot to put it back on and rushed to catch my bus home. My purse was stolen on the bus ride. I lost the necklace and our last 4k in cash, to pay our contractor for finishing making our new dump semi-livable. I was crushed. I came home broke, unable to pay this poor contractor and having lost the most valuable thing I owned. Bh, I was able to borrow the money and pay the next night but the necklace hurt for years. When we finally sold our starter house and we're packing up, I went through every bag I owned and in a pocket, deep inside a purse I rarely used, I found my missing necklace. I cried so hard, my husband literally freaked out. I don't wear that one anymore because I'm too afraid to lose it but getting it back was nothing short of a miracle. Only took 5 years... have bitachon. Daven. Things that are meant to come back to us, will.

amother

Tomato

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 5:35 am

amother Papayawhip wrote:

How is this possible? If it was in the bag that was stolen

Chayalle

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 5:44 am

OP I had a similar experience. I actually never liked my Kallah bracelet - wasn't given a choice, it was a bulky yellow gold chain that didn't suit me at all. After my MIL AH passed away (so she wouldn't feel bad) I traded it in and got a pair of diamond earrings. At my niece's Shabbos Sheva Brachos I lost one of them. I searched all over, couldn't find it.

It's quite a few years since then (she already has a Bas Mitzvah girl...) and it does give me a twinge when I think of it. I have never gotten another pair of real earrings like that (no budget for it, there's always more important things to spend money on.) But I remember that it really was a hard loss at the time. Though by now I never think of it, except of course when I read a post like yours OP.....

On the topic of earrings, I realized it's the most lost item ever, and I just buy fake. In fact, I bought a pair of fakes recently for under $30, and got complemented on it by several different people, one of whom thought it was real and expensive LOL.

wanttobehappy

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 6:52 am

I sell gold filled jewlery wholesale we have over 1000 style of earring if u have a picture of ur earring I can find something similar for u msg me. Most cost around $25-35 wholesale and most are very light. I wear them in the pool for many hours a day and they really last beautifully. I hate hate loosing expensive things main reason I stopped buying real jewelry.