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amother
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 Yesterday at 10:10 am
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My kids don’t like when neighbors babysit but I hate asking for favors… it just feels weird not to pay her and she said I don’t have to… WWYD?
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amother
Whitesmoke
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Yesterday at 10:11 am
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I’d pay her or buy her a gift as a thank you
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:11 am
| amother OP wrote: | | My kids don’t like when neighbors babysit but I hate asking for favors… it just feels weird not to pay her and she said I don’t have to… WWYD? |
I don’t, but I give them a gift on Chanukah or other occasions.
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Iymnok
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Yesterday at 10:12 am
Talk to her mother.
Either way, get her something special for chanukah.
If it becomes a regular thing, occasionally give her cash, a gift card or a nice gift.
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amother
Salmon
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Yesterday at 10:13 am
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I have a few, some prefer to get paid and some prefer nice gifts every so often. Ask her mother what she thinks
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benny
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Yesterday at 10:13 am
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In our family it's done as a favor. When they're available. And we buy gift.
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amother
Seagreen
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Yesterday at 10:14 am
I've done it, a few times. I've got a few kids and some of them have a harder time with babysitters than the others.
So I feel comfortable asking, that I'm not taking advantage of her.
And I don't pressure her at all in case it's not a good time for her.
But I have a neighbor who wanted to pay my (younger) daughter for helping her out with her kids every so often. We came to a mutual agreement that she wouldn't pay, but she can get her a gift for chanukah or some other time if she wants to give her something.
Every family does what makes sense for them.
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mizle10
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Yesterday at 10:47 am
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I pay them. I tell them I prefer to pay them and call them whenever I need a babysitter than not paying them and calling them as a favor
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amother
Lotus
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Yesterday at 11:15 am
I pay.
I tell them they are doing a chessed enabling me to go out. And me paying them doesn’t take away from that.
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bwaybabe85
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Yesterday at 11:49 am
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My teenage nephews babysit my kids and I pay them.
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amother
Mocha
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Yesterday at 1:10 pm
A high school girl?? Of course you pay. I wouldn’t even discuss it with her mother.
I pay my siblings to babysit. I feel less guilty about staying out late if I need to
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amother
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Yesterday at 1:18 pm
| mizle10 wrote: | | I pay them. I tell them I prefer to pay them and call them whenever I need a babysitter than not paying them and calling them as a favor |
Exactly.
My daughter now babysits for her aunts and usually gets paid.
Possibly at a lower rate though
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amother
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Yesterday at 1:19 pm
| amother Lotus wrote: | I pay.
I tell them they are doing a chessed enabling me to go out. And me paying them doesn’t take away from that. |
Love this.
It's also a chessed for them to be available as someone we know and trust, if they come willingly and happily...
But if they would get paid for the same thing at a neighbor, they should get paid from me.
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amother
Aquamarine
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Yesterday at 1:21 pm
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Why not pay? if you really can't afford then discuss it with them they may be ok. But don't just assume.
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amother
Peachpuff
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Yesterday at 1:21 pm
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If you would pay your neighbor why wouldn’t you pay your niece?
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