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Would you pay your high school niece to babysit?
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amother
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Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 1:10 pm
My kids don’t like when neighbors babysit but I hate asking for favors… it just feels weird not to pay her and she said I don’t have to… WWYD?
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amother
Whitesmoke


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 1:11 pm
I’d pay her or buy her a gift as a thank you
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amother
Daylily  


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 1:11 pm
amother OP wrote:
My kids don’t like when neighbors babysit but I hate asking for favors… it just feels weird not to pay her and she said I don’t have to… WWYD?

I don’t, but I give them a gift on Chanukah or other occasions.
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Iymnok  




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 1:12 pm
Talk to her mother.
Either way, get her something special for chanukah.

If it becomes a regular thing, occasionally give her cash, a gift card or a nice gift.
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amother
Salmon


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 1:13 pm
I have a few, some prefer to get paid and some prefer nice gifts every so often. Ask her mother what she thinks
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benny




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 1:13 pm
In our family it's done as a favor. When they're available. And we buy gift.
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amother
Seagreen


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 1:14 pm
I've done it, a few times. I've got a few kids and some of them have a harder time with babysitters than the others.
So I feel comfortable asking, that I'm not taking advantage of her.
And I don't pressure her at all in case it's not a good time for her.


But I have a neighbor who wanted to pay my (younger) daughter for helping her out with her kids every so often. We came to a mutual agreement that she wouldn't pay, but she can get her a gift for chanukah or some other time if she wants to give her something.


Every family does what makes sense for them.
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mizle10




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 1:47 pm
I pay them. I tell them I prefer to pay them and call them whenever I need a babysitter than not paying them and calling them as a favor
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amother
Lotus


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 2:15 pm
I pay.
I tell them they are doing a chessed enabling me to go out. And me paying them doesn’t take away from that.
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observer




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 2:46 pm
I would pay
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bwaybabe85




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 2:49 pm
My teenage nephews babysit my kids and I pay them.
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amother
Oak


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 2:53 pm
Yes I’d pay
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gibberish




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 2:55 pm
I pay the going rate
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amother
Blue


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 4:08 pm
I always did.
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amother
Mocha


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 4:10 pm
A high school girl?? Of course you pay. I wouldn’t even discuss it with her mother.
I pay my siblings to babysit. I feel less guilty about staying out late if I need to
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amother
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Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 4:18 pm
mizle10 wrote:
I pay them. I tell them I prefer to pay them and call them whenever I need a babysitter than not paying them and calling them as a favor

Exactly.
My daughter now babysits for her aunts and usually gets paid.
Possibly at a lower rate though
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amother
  Bottlebrush


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 4:19 pm
amother Lotus wrote:
I pay.
I tell them they are doing a chessed enabling me to go out. And me paying them doesn’t take away from that.

Love this.
It's also a chessed for them to be available as someone we know and trust, if they come willingly and happily...
But if they would get paid for the same thing at a neighbor, they should get paid from me.
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amother
Aquamarine


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 4:21 pm
Why not pay? if you really can't afford then discuss it with them they may be ok. But don't just assume.
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amother
Peachpuff


 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 4:21 pm
If you would pay your neighbor why wouldn’t you pay your niece?
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flowerpower




 
 
    
 

Post Tue, Dec 03 2024, 4:53 pm
I pay
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