Using a name of someone who is alive

amother

Charcoal

Yesterday at 10:36 pm

amother Moccasin wrote:

It only matters if it’s your parent or grandparent

I heard a child can name after a parent even if the grandparent has the same name. But they should ask permission first.

I know a lady whose great-grandchild was named her name. She understood it was a parent but was extremely hurt that no one even asked her.

amother

Yellow

Yesterday at 10:38 pm

itsokay wrote:

I've heard of being allowed to do it with permission from the one who's name you are using

Same. We had where someone was using one of the names, so they asked permission.

↑ Molly Weasley

Yesterday at 11:14 pm

Op, since your parent is mochol, you can pm me for a Ruv who should be able to help you.

I don't feel comfortable posting here (FG might be lurking. Who knows)

amother

Thistle

Today at 12:44 am

I’ve asked this and was told that even though halachically it’s muttar it’s a terrible idea, even if the person says they’re mochel, if they get sick later they might blame you or you might blame yourself.

amother

Sand

Today at 2:00 am

My sil just did this for a name of a grandparent (babys great grandparent).
Said grandparent isn't frum and they wouldn't want to name after when they are nifter, they had a different relative on the other side with the same name so they used it now as a second name. - their chassidish Rav said they should do it.

amother

Acacia

Today at 2:18 am

OP, I hope this relative lives until long after all your children are born, but if chv something happens, you'd never be able to name after them.

amother

Ultramarine

Today at 2:24 am

DH's gf and my gf had the same first name so I didn't use it. Used a version of it but not the name. Then 10 months later, dh's gf was niftar. So many nephews named after him. A lot of ppl assume my son is part of them but that zaidy was alive.

amother

Scarlet

Today at 2:34 am

We've had this scenario many times over in the family, and no we do NOT name a name that a living grandparent has. Not if you're ashkenazi.

May have taken 15 years for grandparent to have a child named after them, but was never a consideration to use a name that another grandparent has. (15 years was not until granparent passed away. It was until a baby was born in a family where no grandparent had the same name.)

amother

Wandflower

Today at 2:41 am

amother Ultramarine wrote:

Thought you wrote girlfriend took me a minute to understand you wrote grandfather. LOL

amother

Jasmine

Today at 4:45 am

amother OP wrote:

The parent explicitly told us they would be mochel it

Ok so they have said they're mochel, which gives you 'permission'. But imagine the kibbud av if you decide to hold off, in respect for the living relative.

We've had many times in our family where a deceased relative isn't named after for many years, until the name becomes 'available' once another relative (often from the other side) passes away.
Ashkenazi heimishe.

amother

Azure

Today at 8:18 am

amother Thistle wrote:

I was told the same thing ! Two grandparents Shared a name and the living one was moichel . In my case each one even had a second name as well which they didn’t share . Asked rav and he said halachically it would be ok but I shouldn’t as I wouldn’t want it on my shoulders should something happen to the living grandparent (I guess it’s a kaballah thing ? )