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amother
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 Tue, Nov 12 2024, 9:22 pm
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What is the acceptable price range/cash gift amt that is proper for wedding gift? Neighbor I'm not super close to, but will stay for meal cuz I'm invited
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Tue, Nov 12 2024, 9:26 pm
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Tue, Nov 12 2024, 9:45 pm
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amother
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Tue, Nov 12 2024, 11:09 pm
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Well, those are opposite extremes...
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amother
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Tue, Nov 12 2024, 11:17 pm
hmm. well I live in Baltimore. I m guessing it depends on the circles you move in, but quite honestly I am very surprised at the $200/person suggestion. Truly , my recently married kids did not get any gifts anything like that! More typical was a check or a gift to the value of about $36-$50 with the occasional gift of $100 or $150. Maybe us and our mechutanim all have either poor friends and family, or stingy frugal friends and family.
I usually give a gift to the value of about $25-50 depending on how close we are to the baalei simchas.
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amother
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Tue, Nov 12 2024, 11:53 pm
| amother Poinsettia wrote: | hmm. well I live in Baltimore. I m guessing it depends on the circles you move in, but quite honestly I am very surprised at the $200/person suggestion. Truly , my recently married kids did not get any gifts anything like that! More typical was a check or a gift to the value of about $36-$50 with the occasional gift of $100 or $150. Maybe us and our mechutanim all have either poor friends and family, or stingy frugal friends and family.
I usually give a gift to the value of about $25-50 depending on how close we are to the baalei simchas. |
I agree with this. We usually give in the 50ish range.Though they’ll be super happy with something closer to $200 per person 🙂.
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amother
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Yesterday at 8:08 am
| amother Poinsettia wrote: | hmm. well I live in Baltimore. I m guessing it depends on the circles you move in, but quite honestly I am very surprised at the $200/person suggestion. Truly , my recently married kids did not get any gifts anything like that! More typical was a check or a gift to the value of about $36-$50 with the occasional gift of $100 or $150. Maybe us and our mechutanim all have either poor friends and family, or stingy frugal friends and family.
I usually give a gift to the value of about $25-50 depending on how close we are to the baalei simchas. |
Just confirming, can I give $54 even if we join for the meal, or that looks stingy?
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Yesterday at 8:14 am
| amother OP wrote: | | Just confirming, can I give $54 even if we join for the meal, or that looks stingy? | That's fine, op.
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amother
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Yesterday at 8:15 am
| amother OP wrote: | | Just confirming, can I give $54 even if we join for the meal, or that looks stingy? |
$54 is very nice and generous, of course you can give that!
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amother
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Yesterday at 8:38 am
| amother OP wrote: | | Just confirming, can I give $54 even if we join for the meal, or that looks stingy? |
Totally fine! I don’t think most people here calculate and expect the price of the gift to equal the cost of the meal.
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:12 am
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If your invited and staying for the meal I would say you should give a minimum $100. Or find a gift on their registry around that price range.
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:21 am
| amother Pear wrote: | | If your invited and staying for the meal I would say you should give a minimum $100. Or find a gift on their registry around that price range. |
If you cant afford to do that then that is absolutley not necessary, sorry. We dont know the OP or her income and expenses. So how can you say that? If the baalei simcha have invited her they presumably would like her to come even without a gift. There is no obligation to give a big gift at all! There have been times that I have gone to weddings and the baalei simcha have been thrilled that we were there and they made that obvious to us. And our little $25 gift definitely didnt have any connection to that.
As somebody who has married off kids, I feel that there is no connection in the mind of the baalei simcha as to if anyone gave or didnt give gifts. Half the time I didnt even know if people gave my kids gifts, until my married dd asked me for so and so's address. Thats often how I knew they had given a gift. I have no idea at all what the gifts were. Not from lack of interest, but often the gifts were delivered to the mechutanims house because the gift giver lived closer to them etc.
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amother
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Yesterday at 11:00 am
| amother Poinsettia wrote: | If you cant afford to do that then that is absolutley not necessary, sorry. We dont know the OP or her income and expenses. So how can you say that? If the baalei simcha have invited her they presumably would like her to come even without a gift. There is no obligation to give a big gift at all! There have been times that I have gone to weddings and the baalei simcha have been thrilled that we were there and they made that obvious to us. And our little $25 gift definitely didnt have any connection to that.
As somebody who has married off kids, I feel that there is no connection in the mind of the baalei simcha as to if anyone gave or didnt give gifts. Half the time I didnt even know if people gave my kids gifts, until my married dd asked me for so and so's address. Thats often how I knew they had given a gift. I have no idea at all what the gifts were. Not from lack of interest, but often the gifts were delivered to the mechutanims house because the gift giver lived closer to them etc. |
Except she never said she couldnt afford it she was just asking the acceptable amount. The acceptable amount would be $100. You cant go out to eat for 2 people for $54 so yes I would say give more than that if you are staying for the meal.
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amother
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Yesterday at 12:47 pm
| amother Pear wrote: | | Except she never said she couldnt afford it she was just asking the acceptable amount. The acceptable amount would be $100. You cant go out to eat for 2 people for $54 so yes I would say give more than that if you are staying for the meal. |
But are people really inviting guests and expecting them to pay for their meal?
My parents certainly did not for my wedding. They figured out how many people we could afford to have and we invited accordingly.
Of course it’s nice to give a more expensive gift and would be more appreciated and $100 is totally reasonable if OP can do so but if that’s too much then less is acceptable as well.
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amother
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Yesterday at 1:07 pm
| amother Zinnia wrote: | But are people really inviting guests and expecting them to pay for their meal?
My parents certainly did not for my wedding. They figured out how many people we could afford to have and we invited accordingly.
Of course it’s nice to give a more expensive gift and would be more appreciated and $100 is totally reasonable if OP can do so but if that’s too much then less is acceptable as well. |
Excactly. I dont get the 'paying for the meal' thing.
The parents are paying for the meal.
The gifts are going to chosson and kallah.
So whats the big connection and feeling that you need to pay for your meal?
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