How much does a chassidisha wedding cost?

amother

OP ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 1:33 pm

If you recently married off your child how much did the wedding cost?
Also where was the wedding and what is the breakdown?
I would like to know the entire total, including the wedding night, setting up the apartment, Sheva brochos and gifts. Everything

amother

Holly

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 2:27 pm

80-100,000$
No time to do the breakdown now.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 4:21 pm

Thanks. And if you don't know then could you just say that you don't know. I am trying to figure out how much it will cost to marry the kids.

amother

Aquamarine ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 4:28 pm

amother Holly wrote:

80-100,000$
No time to do the breakdown now.

Absolute insanity. That is not normal. It must change.

amother

Anemone ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 4:39 pm

I got married within the last 2 years.
Total was approx 55k. I don't know the breakdown.
Takana chasuna in the UK.
No furniture.

amother

Amaryllis ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:13 pm

amother Holly wrote:

80-100,000$
No time to do the breakdown now.

Plenty chasidush not spending that....

amother

Slategray ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:34 pm

amother Amaryllis wrote:

Plenty chasidush not spending that....

Actually she is correct unfortunatly. A family member is marrying off a child, bare bones wedding (by chassidish standard) and he told me it is costing home 100k. Insanity

amother

Aconite ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:36 pm

My parents don't make weddings that cost more than $60K.
My in laws don't make for less then $100K....
OP, make a wedding within your budget, regardless of what others do. But for $60K, you can have a regular beautiful wedding.

amother

Buttercup

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:36 pm

amother Slategray wrote:

Actually she is correct unfortunatly. A family member is marrying off a child, bare bones wedding (by chassidish standard) and he told me it is costing home 100k. Insanity

For what?

amother

↑ Aconite ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:37 pm

amother Slategray wrote:

Actually she is correct unfortunatly. A family member is marrying off a child, bare bones wedding (by chassidish standard) and he told me it is costing home 100k. Insanity

Then it's absolutely not a bare bones wedding. You can definitely make a nice wedding for $60K. If their wedding is $100K , it's not bare bones.

amother

NeonPink ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:37 pm

$60-$80K

If you are Satmar $100K plus

amother

↑ Slategray ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:38 pm

amother Buttercup wrote:

For what?

Including furniture, clothing for entire family for wedding and sheva brachos, fixing up appt etc..

amother

↑ Slategray

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:40 pm

amother Aconite wrote:

Then it's absolutely not a bare bones wedding. You can definitely make a nice wedding for $60K. If their wedding is $100K , it's not bare bones.

Yes, it is. Wedding is in a tekunah hall, lots of stuff second hand. I agree the standard is insane. Why do couples need italian furniture?? They can get beautiful sets at ikea. When they can afford it they can buy, id they want. Why do they need high end dishes? Its insane.

amother

Forsythia ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:40 pm

Mine was also in the 100K range Nothing extravagant or or out of the ordinary. Got bedroom set and chest and dinette set on Wayfair. No dining room furniture. Tried being very careful. The shaitels were probably our biggest expense, besides the wedding night.

amother

Offwhite ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:41 pm

amother NeonPink wrote:

$60-$80K

If you are Satmar $100K plus

Why?

amother

Thistle ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:42 pm

amother Anemone wrote:

I got married within the last 2 years.
Total was approx 55k. I don't know the breakdown.
Takana chasuna in the UK.
No furniture.

Wow that sounds too much. I'm scared now 😯
Did you have loads of people at the dinner?
55k for a takana wedding?! Insane.

amother

↑ NeonPink ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:45 pm

Furniture $30K
Jewelry $20K /Silver $10K
Wedding hall $15K
Linens and housewares $8K
Appliances $5K
Sheitel/ shtreimel $6K
Shtufeer $5K
Flowers $5K
Music and singer $5K
Photographer and Badchan $5K
Kallah gown $2-5K
Mother of bride and sis of bride dresses $4-10K

amother

↑ NeonPink ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:45 pm

amother Offwhite wrote:

Why?

Because they make more balebatish than other chasidusin

amother

↑ Amaryllis ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:48 pm

amother Slategray wrote:

Actually she is correct unfortunatly. A family member is marrying off a child, bare bones wedding (by chassidish standard) and he told me it is costing home 100k. Insanity

Yes many people are and businesses are flaunting adds in our faces but there are still many people totally under $55,000 including wedding night apartment and all

amother

↑ Amaryllis

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 5:50 pm

amother Offwhite wrote:

Why?

Because they need to be very balabatish and have a lot of social pressures to keep up with the joneses. Local stores and vendors feed into this mentality and do very well because of it