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amother
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 Today at 5:13 pm
| amother Myrtle wrote: | | You can't tip toe around them being afraid they will be hurt. They will never grow that way and continue thinking they are perfect. |
The people in my life who have it certainly don't think they're perfect. in fact, it's the opposite.
They are very down on themselves.
If I bring up something to dh that he does that hurts me, he literally gets down and depressed for a few days wondering how such a horrible person he could be for hurting me.
It took a long time for me to understand this, I kept saying "I don't get it, YOU hurt ME, how is this all about YOU now?"
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amother
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Today at 5:15 pm
| amother Mocha wrote: | The people in my life who have it certainly don't think they're perfect. in fact, it's the opposite.
They are very down on themselves.
If I bring up something to dh that he does that hurts me, he literally gets down and depressed for a few days wondering how such a horrible person he could be for hurting me.
It took a long time for me to understand this, I kept saying "I don't get it, YOU hurt ME, how is this all about YOU now?" |
Yes, I meant more so to help them recognize that they need help and they can't blame everyone else for their problems.
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Today at 5:15 pm
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Wow - I never knew this is a thing! This is me lol.
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amother
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Today at 5:22 pm
| amother Myrtle wrote: | As I stated before I have both a child and husband that have it.
In order to help them grow and learn you can't tip toe. | I hear you.
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amother
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Today at 5:25 pm
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If it’s your child the best thing you can do is help them now even if they protest and claim you are hurting them. The worst thing you can do is let them continue like this and make it their spouse’s problem in the future. And the marriage might not actually survive it. I really thought we would get divorced so many times.
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Today at 5:26 pm
| amother Myrtle wrote: | As I stated before I have both a child and husband that have it.
In order to help them grow and learn you can't tip toe. |
Agree. My ex was like this. He was always right and it was always everyone who was the problem. You couldn't make him acknowledge anything at all.
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Today at 5:28 pm
| amother Brunette wrote: | | Agree. My ex was like this. He was always right and it was always everyone who was the problem. You couldn't make him acknowledge anything at all. |
This sounds a lot more like narcissism than Rejection sensitivity dysphoria.
I think some posters are misunderstanding what it really is.
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amother
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Today at 5:43 pm
| amother Mocha wrote: | This sounds a lot more like narcissism than Rejection sensitivity dysphoria.
I think some posters are misunderstanding what it really is. |
The narcissim developed because of the rejection sensitivity dysphoria. That became his defense mechanism.
Believe me, I know exactly what it is. If I so much said that I'm not in the mood tonight to be with him, his reaction was beyond. He equated it to me hating him, and that I'm rejecting him as a spouse, etc. Same with other aspects of life.
Eventually it morphed into him being right about everything and everyone else is in the wrong. That's the only way he could go on with his day.
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