If your husband got a bonus

amother

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 11:17 am

If your husband got a bonus before Yom tov, what's his position and how much was it for?

I am a manger of a small team, work hard, and got a $400 bonus. My husband has a similar position and got a $1000 bonus.
Why the huge difference (over 50%)?

Is this a cultural thing, a sexist thing?

Disclaimer: it's not about the money! We only have a joint account so it's not like 'my money your money' type of thing. I'm just curious and think it's interesting.

amother

Peach ↓

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 11:20 am

I could be wrong because my husband and I are both teachers and dont really bonuses... But I think it's company dependent.
My husband got $100 from his boss for yom tov and I got nothing... But I get paid more than him, work for a bigger yeshiva...

amother

Oxfordblue

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 11:21 am

Neither of us got a bonus. Both management positions.

amother

Hyacinth

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 11:21 am

Never heard of a YT bonus. Wow. I guess that’s a perk of working for a Jewish company? Yasher koach

amother

Sunflower

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 11:41 am

My husband got nothing.
I’m sahm and I got an unlimited credit card.

amother

Mintcream ↓

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 11:51 am

my dh got a bonus. NON JEWISH company. nothing to do with y"t, not sure why he got in y"t time. dont remember him ever getting a bonus before in all our years of marriage. hes in tech.

amother

Blonde ↓

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 11:52 am

Each business gives differently. How can you compare unless you work in the same place? Many didn’t get any bonus be grateful you both did.

amother

↑ Blonde ↓

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 11:53 am

amother Mintcream wrote:

my dh got a bonus. NON JEWISH company. nothing to do with y"t, not sure why he got in y"t time. dont remember him ever getting a bonus before in all our years of marriage. hes in tech.

Non Jewish tech places usually give a bonus new years time.

amother

↑ Blonde ↓

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 11:54 am

amother Sunflower wrote:

My husband got nothing.
I’m sahm and I got an unlimited credit card.

Is it really unlimited? So you can swipe millions if you want?

amother

↑ Mintcream

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 11:57 am

amother Blonde wrote:

Non Jewish tech places usually give a bonus new years time.

correct. that's why I thought it was so strange that he got one now

amother

↑ Blonde

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 12:02 pm

amother Mintcream wrote:

correct. that's why I thought it was so strange that he got one now

Sometimes it’s for a specific project each person on it gets a bonus if it was extra successful. He can usually find out.

amother

Seafoam

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 12:06 pm

Jewish place.
No bonus for Yom Tov.
Usually $360 bonus around New Years.
That's it.

Some places give better bonuses than others
On the other hand, we got the insurance sign up information for next year, and they pay a very significant amount (90%) of spouse and family premiums.
So I guess that's really our bonus. To the tune of a couple of thousand dollars a year.

amother

Oldlace

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 12:15 pm

My husband got nothing and I got a chocolate platter.

amother

Amaranthus

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 12:15 pm

By my school the Rebbeim definitely get more than the Morahs. It’s a small bonus normally something like $100 for us or $250 for the men

amother

NeonOrange

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 12:18 pm

I used to work for a Jewish company. They always gave bonuses yom tov time. Sometimes 500. Sometimes 1000. The last company I worked for gave us a honey cake for Rosh hashana and a cheesecake for Shavuos.

amother

Catmint

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 12:44 pm

I work as a teacher, I got a cake! (The Rebbeim get $400) My husband works in the office of a Yeshiva, he got $2500. BH!

amother

Emerald

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 12:57 pm

My husband in kollel got a $1500 bonus.
I work in the local school and got 5 honey straws before rosh hashana LOL

justforfun87

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 12:59 pm

Yes it is sexist. Why do Rabbeim get huge tips from parents and not Morahs.

amother

Raspberry

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 1:04 pm

- do you work for the same company? One company bay gave done much better than the other?
- do you work the same hours or get paid the same amount? Is one part time or one full time?
Our company it’s a percentage of salary but also dependent on fill time vs part time. Part time workers get smaller percentage of their salary.

giftedmom

Wed, Oct 16 2024, 1:06 pm

It’s assumed that men are the main breadwinners