Do you go to the mikvah erev yom kippur?

amother

Denim ↓

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 1:11 pm

Yes, I go and love it...but it's a clean, well prepared oot mikvah.

It's a tangible way to prepare for the holiest day of the year. I remember my grandma going when I was in seminary and how much effort she put in to go. My mom and sisters go too.

amother

Bluebonnet

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 1:11 pm

amother Papaya wrote:

What do you find spiritual about cramming into a mikvah and dipping quickly so the next lady can go? Legit curious

I don't go, but would answer that we have a mesorah that dipping in a mikvah has spiritual benefits, as it cleanses and uplifts the neshama. On the days of the bais hamikdash when the laws of tumah and taharah were kept, we would all be dipping quite often.

Men "cram into a mikvah" and dip all year round for this benefit.

amother

↑ Denim

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 1:13 pm

simcha12plus wrote:

yes you are missing the point.
It is for added kedusha and tahara.
Much more like men going daily or weekly or before shabbos/YT.
It is completely unrelated to Niddah.
There is no chafifah. One can go during niddah. If during shiva nikiyiim, there are differing opinions.

What? You can go while bleeding?
Isn't that unsanitary?

amother

Cerise

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 1:16 pm

I’ve gone since I got married and never once experienced this cramped chicken market people are describing.
Maybe because I live in a smaller community so this works, but everyone books a 15 min appt and you usually don’t even see the lady before you or after you. You just let yourself in go toivel and leave. Very civilized and feels like a good spiritual prep for yk, especially because with little kids I don’t always get to feel that holiness on the day.

amother

Ballota ↓

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 1:28 pm

My mother never went
I went once as a newlywed and was grossed out can never do it again. Waiting in line with everyone, leaving my clothes in a room with tons of stuff, and the mikvah was so dirty from all that used it

mizle10

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 2:10 pm

I love going erev YK! It really helps get me in the right spiritual frame of mind.

That being said, it's a very pleasant experience at my mikvah. I've never been rushed, everyone gets their own prep room (can't imagine otherwise!!!), everyone is davening and wishing each other a gmar chasima tova.

BrachaVHatzlocha

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 8:45 pm

Curious if it's certain sects that do/don't have minhag. Like chasidish, litvish, sefardi,?

amother

Puce

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 8:50 pm

HI Ladies!
I went to the mikva now no cramped situation at all.
Got a private room got undressed put on robe, dipped and then left!

Was actually a very holy feeling!

amother

Whitesmoke

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 8:57 pm

Not sure why everyone’s talking about being together with more people..
I never had such an experience. All the places I went were nice, clean and respectful. No Mikva attendants or any workers there, everyone came did their thing and left

amother

Salmon

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:00 pm

Not my minhag. Never even heard of it till I came here. In any event, there's only one women's mikvah here and on erev YK it's handed over to the men. (Yecccchhhh.)

synthy

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:00 pm

I go but it’s clean and quite empty. Honestly I’d never go if my Mikva looked like what some described.

unknown2

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:27 pm

Our minhat but always got sick , it’s not clean the water

amother

Sunflower

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:30 pm

Never heard of women going. My husband goes erev rh and yk. He says it's chaos.

Ruchi

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:43 pm

amother Ballota wrote:

How can it be dirty if you shower beforehand?

amother

Lily

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 10:06 pm

For those that don't go because of the situation, if you want to go, there are places that have better systems in place.
I take it as a huge pressure, but am always happy I went. It is my small way of preparing for YT.

amother

RosePink

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 11:02 pm

amother Denim wrote:

What? You can go while bleeding?
Isn't that unsanitary?

During the shiva nekiyim a woman is still niddah.

amother

Gardenia

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 11:21 pm

amother Birch wrote:

This. I went once or twice & was beyond disgusted by the situation there.

Same

amother

Butterscotch

Fri, Oct 11 2024, 1:17 am

How much do they charge? I'm going to a friend's shul mikvah and want to give her the standard amount. Thanks!

amother

↑ Ballota ↓

Fri, Oct 11 2024, 2:15 am

Ruchi wrote:

How can it be dirty if you shower beforehand?

I guess not everyone did?
Alsonthere was here in the water that can fall off even with a shower beforehand

amother

↑ Ballota

Fri, Oct 11 2024, 2:15 am

amother Butterscotch wrote:

How much do they charge? I'm going to a friend's shul mikvah and want to give her the standard amount. Thanks!

Between 10-18 I think