Potch and sleep training

amother

Fri, Jan 03 2025, 3:13 pm

Curious, following these two discussions, if there’s any overlap. Seems like people from two different worlds.

amother

Apple

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 6:27 pm

Here’s my prediction:
-people that won’t sleep train won’t potch (pitching is worse).
-people that do sleep train mostly won’t potch (because potching is worse- but some will).
-people that potch will mostly sleep train (bc if you don’t mind child abuse then what’s a little crying)

I don’t do either and never would. And I grew up in an abusive home.

amother

Cerise

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 6:39 pm

I wrote yes to both. .

I never successfully sleep trained but I so believe it's ok for kids to cry with a parent close by

I think it's ok to give a little pitch on the hand a few times in a child's life. If that was all the bad I ever did to them I would be quite happy with myself.

amother

Brickred

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 6:48 pm

I don’t sleep train but I do potch. The times I potch are extremely rare and it’s when a kid is doing something unsafe or chutzpah (after lots of warning obviously)

amother

Chicory

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 7:04 pm

I don’t do I either when my kids are dysregulated. I would cry. I do discipline them and our house runs on a schedule, but my babies sleep through the night when they are large enough to eat an amount that keeps them going for longer, and unsafe behavior results in being removed from the situation with a parent present. Yes, they are BH well adjusted

AlwaysGrateful

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 7:54 pm

amother Apple wrote:

So...you're wrong. I mean, in some ways you're right. It seems that it's rare to potch but not sleep train.

But MOST people do sleep train their kids. Because it's not abuse. And most experienced mothers with more than one or two kids realize that the pros outweigh the cons in a lot of situations. Whereas there are so many other better ways of disciplining besides potching.

tinytots ↓

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 8:23 pm

I sleep train - but I don't let my baby cry
I belive in potching when it's an extreme behavior that's not ok or dangerous- ie biting, touching the oven, running into the street etc. but not stam for parenting

amother

Seafoam

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 8:30 pm

tinytots wrote:

If I'm not mistaken, the actual term "sleep training" refers specifically to the crying it out methodologies out there.

Those of us who don't, might engage in a sleep "training" of sorts in whatever methods & rituals we use to help out babies learn sleep, but that term has been taken on regarding letting the child cry for increments of time & such.

amother

Seablue

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 8:32 pm

amother Seafoam wrote:

No that’s the cry it out method. Sleep training means training kids to sleep and it can be any method that teaches them to fall asleep and stay asleep.

↑ tinytots

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 8:33 pm

amother Seafoam wrote:

I did 12 hours by 12 weeks- (with more feedings than the book says). but she has a style to sleep train without letting your baby cry