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Poll #1 reason you picked (if you did) sons elementary yeshi



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What is the #1 reason you picked your ds elementary yeshiva, if you had choices
Level of learning/academics  
 4%  [ 3 ]
Warmth of rebbeim/hanhallah  
 31%  [ 19 ]
Facility ie gym, nice building, playground, library  
 0%  [ 0 ]
Felt parent body most similar to you/your goals for your child  
 44%  [ 27 ]
Affordability  
 4%  [ 3 ]
Other  
 14%  [ 9 ]
Total Votes : 61



amother
OP  


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:33 pm
I have a theory though not sure everyone realizes...

When you were deciding on a yeshiva for your boys, what was the primary reason you made your decision? Please only vote if you live somewhere where you realistically had more than one option. Obviously if it was one school or public school, not your choice.
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amother
Acacia


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:37 pm
..erased thought yeshiva..high school age
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amother
Aqua


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:39 pm
Edited because I thought you meant mesivtas.
For elementary he went there because they called dh that they're looking for a certain parent body and asked him to send. They were still building up the school. Being a new cheder, they were very attentive and workable if he ever needed anything.
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amother
Bone


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:39 pm
A place where his mental health needs and learning needs would be considered

But I assume you weren't asking about kids like mine...

Ok. I see you wrote elementary. Families similar to ours.
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amother
  OP  


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:40 pm
To clarify, elementary school. HS or BM totally different question.

Like when your kid is 2.5 and you are applying to nursery and plan to stay put. Or 4 if you live somewhere starts at pre1.
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amother
Rainbow


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:41 pm
Parent body and warmth- more than one we could have fit in but wanted the one we thought was most warm
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amother
Trillium


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:43 pm
Honestly, I went to a place that I knew I would get accepted to. I didn't want to have to fight to get into school.
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amother
Snowflake


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:48 pm
When I first applied it was level of learning/academics, and parent body most similar to me

I only had one son then a bunch of girls. If I’m zoche to another son, we will no longer be in that yeshiva and for logistic reasons I’d want to send to a different yeshiva, but my new reason to keep in the yeshiva would be for the menahel and rebbeim who are truly one of a kind and idk if I’d get that in another yeshiva!
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amother
Teal  


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:49 pm
amother OP wrote:
I have a theory though not sure everyone realizes...

When you were deciding on a yeshiva for your boys, what was the primary reason you made your decision? Please only vote if you live somewhere where you realistically had more than one option. Obviously if it was one school or public school, not your choice.


I would love to hear your theory...
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amother
  OP  


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:53 pm
amother Teal wrote:
I would love to hear your theory...


Lol I don't want to affect ppls responses, will describe later
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amother
  Teal


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:57 pm
A school that focuses on positivity and will help to bring out the best in my child.
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amother
Slateblue


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 11:00 pm
Other. We chose to send to a smaller school davka because it’s smaller, more individual attention. We had a wealth of choices that were all warm etc
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amother
Cream


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 11:02 pm
I voted other.

I sent because of the parent body, but not because they were similar to me. Because they were diverse, and I value that.

I'm yeshivish, in a large OOT community with two primary boys' schools. I wanted them to know that there are other frum Jews out there that are different from us, and we can be friends with them and recognize the good in them. So I sent to a school where the hanhala is more to the right than the boys (so the hashkafos they are teaching match ours), but the boys are a mix. Not to the "more yeshivish" option.

I also felt their methods of teaching were better. Not academics, more their ability to teach in a way that would reach more students.
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amother
Honeydew


 

Post Tue, Dec 31 2024, 11:02 pm
That’s where we got in

Happens to be I love the Chinuch. Rebbeim are so genuine and warm and positive. And they learn how to Lein starting in primary and first grade which gives me so much nachas.


Also the boys are low key ie not peer pressure to wear certain brands or styles or whatever the latest peer pressure is. I notice a diff in their camp, which does have “cooler” boys, and there is peer pressure there and issues with boys being rude and mean and not as warm.


I do have certain thinks I wish were different but I think that’s every school.
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amother
  OP


 

Post Wed, Jan 01 2025, 11:12 pm
So my theory is that, whether people really understand what they thinking or not, in a big percentage of cases, we pick where we send based on parent body. Logically and based on the results I think that if there are 3 schools that all have the same parent body, warmth will be the next factor. Here's what made me think about it.

We sent ds 1 to a school based on parent body we thought we fit best with, or at least we want to be most like, even if we aren't 100% there. Ds 2 is on the younger end of his grade and dh works for a closer yeshiva, so sending ds 2 there instead for preschool. We were also not happy with certain things about ds 1 preschool experience. The morahs were lovely people but I felt they were sort of faded and bored and not able to be creative anymore. Ds 1 came home with basically empty coloring sheets, no projects, didn't learn much. I really don't think the yeshiva cares about the preschool. Once he had a rebbi things changed dramatically, though ds is definitely under stimulated.

I wish I could send both my boys to dhs school! The academic level is excellent, my son loves it, rebbeim are amazing, facilities are great. But I know that as the boys get older, my sons will feel like a fish out of water when it comes to friends, so we can't. We don't have tv, allow kids to use smartphones/internet/modern video games, etc, and I know that is a big thing there.

I can imagine when we want to transfer ds 2 to the other yeshiva, they might ask why we didn't send earlier, and why we are switching now. I know they get a lot of government funding for the preschool and their nursery is very small this year. And I wont be frank with them about the issues with their preschool, because its not socially acceptable, but I can say it here.

Most of the schools in my city have wonderful warm rebbeim. I really hear so much good from people in so many yeshivos, about dedication and heart. Obviously there are some who need to retire or who shouldn't have been hired, but mostly they are good people. We don't send for the rebbeim because isolated not connected to where they work, I really think they would all do a similar good job. But hashkafos and good friends are tachlis.
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amother
DarkYellow


 

Post Wed, Jan 01 2025, 11:22 pm
Didn’t want to translate Chumash to Yiddish this was #1. At the time it was one of the only places.

Well run. Professional. Organized. Teach derech eretz. Started there almost 20 years ago and it is still run this way.

Parent body is not like us at All - we are much more yeshivish, not as fancy, less with it. It’s been fine.
Least affordable. They work with us.
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amother
Brunette


 

Post Wed, Jan 01 2025, 11:29 pm
Why isn’t there an option for the chinuch the school gives? I chose my son’s school because of their outstanding chinuch. They also happen to have warm rebbeim and the parent body is similar to me but the chinuch they give is the main reason I send there
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oohlala




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Jan 02 2025, 12:02 am
I think maybe the poll should have included an option for hashkafa.
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amother
Coral


 

Post Thu, Jan 02 2025, 12:54 am
We chose dss first yeshiva because dh wanted the boys to be in a yeshiva that learns in Yiddish. I told dh that I wasn't willing to compromise just for the Yiddish. We aren't chasidish and found a heimish/chasidish mix.

When ds was still in preschool it was clear to us that the school wasn't a good fit. We changed ds to a yeshiva that aligns with our hashkofa.

My kids are adults now and bh are doing well.
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