Should I pull my dd out of morah

amother

OP ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:00 pm

My dd is in a playgroup where the teacher has cameras and allows us to log in and see our children during the day however it’s come to my attention that she’s not allowing it anymore and she’s logging us ( all the parents) all out of it. I am contemplating pulling my child out. I felt safe by this morah because I was able to see my child whenever I wanted but now that she’s taking it away I am nervous to leave my child there. I completely trust this morah but I won’t have that feeling I can just log in to see my dd. What do I do? My dh says to keep her there she’s happy and content. But I feel I want to pull her out and find another morah who has cameras that I can see my child whenever I want.

amother

Daffodil

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:02 pm

I’ve never heard of such a thing, cameras that you can access? Sounds really cool, but in all my 12 years as a mother I never heard of that being a thing! How old is your child? If it’s a baby I would be concerned, an older kid who can tell you things less so.

familyfirst

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:03 pm

A typical preschool does not give parents that access.
I wouldn’t shlep a happy child out of child care , if you have full trust in the Morah.

What precipitated this change?

amother

Purple

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:03 pm

I'm not sure what to tell you but you do realize that most Morahs do not have cameras that parents can view anytime. Actually, I don't think I've ever heard of it, even when I sent to a legal daycare. Did you ask her why she's no longer having it available to parents?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:04 pm

amother Daffodil wrote:

Dd is 3. My friends don’t have camera access to their morahs but they weren’t expecting it.. when I signed up I knew that I would have access

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:05 pm

[quote="amother Purple"]I'm not sure what to tell you but you do realize that most Morahs do not have cameras that parents can view anytime. Actually, I don't think I've ever heard of it, even when I sent to a legal daycare. Did you ask her why she's no longer having it available to parents?[/quote
She’s getting rid of her WiFi I believe

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:06 pm

courage2change wrote:

Did she tell you why she was taking down the cameras?

She’s getting rid of wifi in her house

mathbrain ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:07 pm

I think that’s a very valid reason to get rid of the cameras then. It’s not like it’s because any red flag reason.

Good luck finding a different place that has cameras and allows you to access them.

I wouldn’t pull out over this.

amother

Hotpink

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:08 pm

I never heard of having full live stream access. Why don’t you pop in at irregular times once or twice to calm you down?
Is this in the babysitters home? Can you log on after hours? I would feel so uncomfortable having parents have so much access to my private home. And streaming can be hacked in to.
Does the morah still send lots of pics?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:10 pm

amother Hotpink wrote:

No she doesn’t send pics. Am I supposed to expect pictures? Should I ask her to be sending me daily

↑ mathbrain

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:12 pm

Do you want the Morah to be busy taking and sending pictures multiple times a day to make you less nervous, or would you rather her focus on actually taking care of the kids? Like, without the added distraction of needing to take pix?

amother

Mulberry ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:13 pm

If your dd is happy, keep her there. Little kids are so finicky, don't mess with what's working unless you have a bad feeling about it.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:15 pm

mathbrain wrote:

No I don’t want her to be busy taking pics and videos but a pic a day would be nice and calm me down. It’s my only child…

amother

↑ Mulberry

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:18 pm

amother OP wrote:

No I don’t want her to be busy taking pics and videos but a pic a day would be nice and calm me down. It’s my only child…

Mine sends a.few pics every day,. I think that's a normal request.

amother

Brickred

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:18 pm

I love getting pix from morah.
But it’s definitely not daily. Maybe once a week. At this age, it’s normal to get a newsletter with some pictures once a week. But not all morahs do that even. Your child was there a few months already and is happy. Take a deep breath and relax.

Elfrida ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:35 pm

It's the middle of the year. Just think what would be involved.

Finding other Morahs who have constant camera access.
Of that very small pool, choosing one who you like and trust.
Hoping that she has space.
Pulling your daughter out of a place where she is settled and happy, and getting her accustomed to a new place.
Either finding someone to fill the space at tbe previous Morah, or continuing to pay fees there.

Is all that worth it, just to have camera access? Let your daughter stay where she is happy, and accept that as she gets older, you will become less involved in the minutiae of her daily life. She is old enough to tell you about what happens.

Was camera access specified in the contract? If so, maybe you have grounds to ask her to retain it. If not, it's entirely up.to her.

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amother

Eggplant

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:35 pm

You sound like nervous mom.. you should definitely go to therapy for separation anxiety. If my child’s morah sends me a pic I take it as a huge treat! I never expect her to send me anything.