How much $ to give as gift to playgroup morah for 2 yr old?

amother

OP ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:07 pm

What is acceptable amount to give as chanuka gift to playgroup morah of 2 yr old?
small group, about 8 kids.

amother

Honeydew ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:10 pm

I don't know what's acceptable. But I gave 25 along with a gift that was almost 20

amother

Burntblack ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:17 pm

amother Honeydew wrote:

I don't know what's acceptable. But I gave 25 along with a gift that was almost 20

Curious why u wouldn’t just give 40 and no gift

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:26 pm

Is this the type of thread that people who gave generously (maybe people of more means) are happy to come post how much they gave while women who gave less are hesitant to post because it looks bad compared to all those high amounts.

I can't be the only one for who $80 is way out of range.

amother

NeonYellow

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:27 pm

My 2 year old’s group has 3 Morahs, I plan on giving $20 each

ETA: seriously I get hugged for this?

amother

Dandelion

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:31 pm

I gave $36 and was under the impression that this was average/generous . Group of around 11.

amother

Oleander ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:31 pm

Playgroup Morah here
some people give nothing some give $10 some give more
give what you can afford.

amother

Nutmeg

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:31 pm

Here the playgroups charge a lot , ( went up by 50%) over the past couple years and the Morah is the owner , making all the profit. That being said hakaras hatov is appropriate I give a small gift such as a cookbook (around $30) . When my kids went to babysitters with a bunch of Morah’s I gave them one gift card of 75-100 to a food establishment they would order a nice lunch for themselves one day .

amother

Burlywood

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:32 pm

Last year I gave a nicely wrapped gift that was about $10-15. This year I spent a bit more (I’m not sure why) and I gave to both Morah’s $40 cash in a card.
After I gave my $40 I was regretting it and thinking it would’ve looked nicer if I gave a $40 cookbook all wrapped up.

I think a gift for $20 may look nicer than just giving a twenty dollar bill.

amother

↑ Burntblack

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:34 pm

amother Burlywood wrote:

I promise you every teacher would rather the cash than a gift

amother

Ivory

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:36 pm

I give $50 to the Morah and $20 to each assistant (2) and I think that’s pretty standard here. I would’ve loved a class collection which would be significantly less; but once I give on my own I feel like $ is most appreciated and the amounts I gave were right down the middle road.

amother

Dimgray

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:39 pm

I plan on giving $36, I would rather give $25 but I’m scared that it’s nebach ( obviously I would rather give even more , but I’m trying to give the least acceptable amount because that’s what I can do right now )

amother

Petunia

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:40 pm

amother Ivory wrote:

I’m shocked I thought standard was $20. So I’ve been giving too little all along when I gave $25???

amother

Mayflower

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:40 pm

I gave $36 to the morah and $18 to the assistant

My 4 yr old has one morah so I gave her $25 gift card

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:44 pm

amother Oleander wrote:

Playgroup Morah here
some people give nothing some give $10 some give more
give what you can afford.

Thanks for your input, and for everyone who gave input.

I was planning on giving 20-25, so you say that's acceptable?

And what's better, cash- or check- or generic debit card?

cm123

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:51 pm

I gave $50 because the Morah charges below the going rate. 25 is for sure nice also!
I like to give cash so they can do with it as they wish.

amother

Lightpink

Mon, Dec 30 2024, 10:52 pm

I give $10-$15 to a popular coffee shop. I was a babysitter and teacher within the last 5 years (diff years) and always got from $10-$50 . Didn’t look at anyone like a nebach- it’s a GIFT you give what you want/can afford and the recipient should be appreciative. I never understood being embarrassed of how much I give.. my moto always is I’m more embarrassed to go into debt than to live within my means . I think the people that give a lot are more likely to reply to your post. I think $20-$25 is generous especially when you have lots of kids ..I’m curious if babysitters would say majority gave more than that?! Maybe a diff area than me cuz that wasn’t my experience.