Im married several years and not only I dont look forward but I actually strongly dislike the way dh sings at the chanukah menorah
help me work on myself
What would happen if you fully accept that you dislike it?
Let that thought and feeling come and then let it move on. There's so much else to think about on chanukkah.
This is a tough one!
First, what bothers you about it?
The tunes? The lack of it?
he mumbles many words into just a small part of the tune
he sings yoshev bseser 7 times or something in different tunes
he doesnt sign nicely/warmly in general
my father sang stunning and heartful
What would happen if you fully accept that you dislike it?
Let that thought and feeling come and then let it move on. There's so much else to think about on chanukkah.
I know but after all music talks to me and its tough
I know but after all music talks to me and its tough
It is tough. You wish it was different. You have a right to wish it was different.
And also you can't change it. I mean you can try and change it. And you can also try and change other things. Perhaps you can play some CDs during the day or even at night. And you can still enjoy the other parts, the foods and the flames and the family
Sometimes the fighting reality is more painful than reality itself
It is tough. You wish it was different. You have a right to wish it was different.
And also you can't change it. I mean you can try and change it. And you can also try and change other things. Perhaps you can play some CDs during the day or even at night. And you can still enjoy the other parts, the foods and the flames and the family
Sometimes the fighting reality is more painful than reality itself
he mumbles many words into just a small part of the tune
he sings yoshev bseser 7 times or something in different tunes
he doesnt sign nicely/warmly in general
my father sang stunning and heartful
We also sing yoshev 7 times I think.
I can't believe I'm saying this but it took me decades to get used to my dh's singing.
I longed for my fathers singing since he had such a beautiful voice and stunning tunes.
So, it's years later and I got used to my dh's tunes and I got to enjoy his voice.
But I get you.
Don't lose sleep over it and use the time to daven to Hashem that His light should fill your home with Sholom and Torah!
