Do you work because you have to or because you want to?

amother

OP ↓

Yesterday at 2:12 pm

I work full time because I have to. Without my salary we would not make it and as it is, we are almost drowning, living month to month even with my salary.

amother

Acacia

Yesterday at 2:14 pm

Both. I work because I have to. And I want to. Part time, 9 kids ka'H.

amother

Phlox

Yesterday at 2:16 pm

Neither, because I've just been fired! My ideal job would be part time, allowing time for myself and my family. Probably I'll take what I can get, and hope to be able to get good hours when I'm more settled.

mha3484

Yesterday at 2:17 pm

Work full time because I have to but if my finances drastically improved I would still keep working just less. I need the structure it gives me and the intellectual stimulation. Thanks ADHD if I don't have a lot of structure I will just sit on my couch and stare into space and do nothing all day.

amother

Geranium

Yesterday at 2:18 pm

I chose want to because that's how I see it but have to is true also.

amother

Mustard

Yesterday at 2:21 pm

I work full time because I have to.
If I wouldnt need to I would work a few hours a day to feel fulfilled but not especially in the area I work in now

amother

Lotus

Yesterday at 2:23 pm

Combination of both. I would likely choose to work less hours if I didn't need the money. I find I never have time for doing things as I work fulltime.

amother

Purple

Yesterday at 2:23 pm

I have to. absolutely

but I also want to

if I were a gajillionaire maybe id work part time. but I’d still work

amother

Yarrow

Yesterday at 2:27 pm

I recently started working because I wanted to. I liked it but had to quit after half a year because the job was very physically exhausting.

amother

↑ OP

Yesterday at 2:28 pm

If I didnt have to work I would volunteer in a few different places that I have been chalashing to volunteer at.

amother

Nasturtium

Yesterday at 2:41 pm

My husband salary can cover our monthly expenses bh. I work because our kids are young and now is the time for us to save. I know I will stop working eventually. As long as it's not too hard on me/my family I will work so we can save. Is that considered wanting to or have to?

amother

Babypink

Yesterday at 3:03 pm

I work because I want to. Me working allows us to save a lot more

HonesttoGod

Yesterday at 3:06 pm

Both.

I have to - our finances are better with the additional income and we can spend/save more.

I want to - I can’t sit at home unproductively all day. Nothing gets done and I feel depressed. I do wish I could work less hours though.

amother

Holly

Yesterday at 3:07 pm

I work because I want to. Or rather, because I should want to. When I didn't work, I wasted hours every day. I use my time a bit better now, but I would definitely prefer a life of leisure. I work very part-time, so my salary doesn't contribute all that much to the household income.

amother

Cinnamon ↓

Yesterday at 3:16 pm

In my own personal life experience, and I will stress MY OWN EXPERIENCE, I have almost never encountered a mother of young children who works full time or close to full time who truly has zero other options. Very often, by making other sacrifices, they would technically be able to get by even if they worked less, but it is their personal preference not to make those sacrifices and instead they choose to work full time.

amother

Tulip

Yesterday at 3:22 pm

I have to. I resent having to because my DH doesn't work hard enough. If he was more hard working I would not be resentful even if I still had to work in order to make ends meet. If he was making enough for me to have a choice, I would love to work on my terms, when and how I want to.

amother

Cyan

Yesterday at 3:22 pm

amother Cinnamon wrote:

Do the other options include the husband leaving kollel or his klei kodesh job?

NewbeeMom

Yesterday at 3:23 pm

Mainly because I want to, but it definitely helps us financially.