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 Yesterday at 12:51 pm
I left work when my first was born because I wasn’t up to going back. I also had ppd and on meds .
Now I am ready for a social life and adult interaction which is important to me, but I love staying home with my baby and taking care of him
We’re not desperate for the money. We’re able to make it work on my husbands salary, I’m not gonna say we have a lot of extra money but it’s working for now as long as we’re careful.
On the other hand, having money is important to me, saving is important to me. We have a little bit of savings we worked hard to save after we were married, and we have a down payment taken care of.
Regarding social life, if I make it a priority to go out to weddings, parties, events, and schedule time with friends I can take care of that aspect without working
I’m nervous that working will take too much of a toll on me after a little while. The meds I’m on make me very tired, and changing them isn’t an option right now so it’ll be like this for at least another 6 months to a year.
I like having more financial freedom and savings, it makes me feel more secure. I also like feeling accomplished and productive by working. But I’m not sure it’s worth it.
The reason I need to decide now is because I found a good potential job that’ll work with my hours. And a good babysitter too.
Can anyone give me their perspective on this?
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Marigold
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Yesterday at 1:35 pm
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It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You can work part time
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Aster
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Yesterday at 1:36 pm
You can give yourself a timeline for accepting the job, acclimating to the new responsibilities, and then evaluating if you're happy or not. It doesn't have to be an absolutely educated decision right now. If you're not happy and its not working, you'll leave.
Not sure the current age, but your baby will be getting older and may enjoy the stimulation.
The decision doesn't have to be all or nothing. I feel like that adds so much pressure. Its ok to try something, give it a good shot, and then change your mind about it.
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Yesterday at 1:37 pm
I’d say try it..
find out how long the babysitter needs a commitment for ..
if it’s till June, tell yourself that you’ll try it for 6 months and if it’s too much you’ll stop .. that seems like not too crazy of a commitment
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Yesterday at 1:40 pm
| amother Marigold wrote: | | It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. You can work part time |
I strongly recommend this. There have been a number of research studies over the years that show that the majority of mothers are happiest working part-time. Of course, there are all kinds of factors involved, and what the majority happen to prefer doesn't mean that's what everyone can or should do.
But it's very, very common to want the adult interactions and even minor challenges that come with a paid job. Plus, being a bit busy may be stressful, but it may also be better for your mental health.
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Cheiny
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Yesterday at 1:41 pm
| amother OP wrote: | I left work when my first was born because I wasn’t up to going back. I also had ppd and on meds .
Now I am ready for a social life and adult interaction which is important to me, but I love staying home with my baby and taking care of him
We’re not desperate for the money. We’re able to make it work on my husbands salary, I’m not gonna say we have a lot of extra money but it’s working for now as long as we’re careful.
On the other hand, having money is important to me, saving is important to me. We have a little bit of savings we worked hard to save after we were married, and we have a down payment taken care of.
Regarding social life, if I make it a priority to go out to weddings, parties, events, and schedule time with friends I can take care of that aspect without working
I’m nervous that working will take too much of a toll on me after a little while. The meds I’m on make me very tired, and changing them isn’t an option right now so it’ll be like this for at least another 6 months to a year.
I like having more financial freedom and savings, it makes me feel more secure. I also like feeling accomplished and productive by working. But I’m not sure it’s worth it.
The reason I need to decide now is because I found a good potential job that’ll work with my hours. And a good babysitter too.
Can anyone give me their perspective on this? |
Obviously different factors have to be considered, but please keep in mind that many studies have shown how crucial it is to a child’s mental and physical health to be nurtured and cared for by Mom especially during the early years so I encourage anyone who’s able to do so to sacrifice this time for what’s best for the child. You’ll have plenty of time soon enough when the child starts nursery to work and have more time for socializing.
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amother
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Yesterday at 2:09 pm
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How old is your baby. It’s priceless being home with a baby if you can manage financially. The days are long but the years short and before you know it your baby won’t be a baby.
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amother
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Yesterday at 2:16 pm
Baby is about 6 months
This job is part time.
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amother
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Yesterday at 2:22 pm
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I would wait a few more months. 6 months is a really a baby.
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Amber
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Yesterday at 2:29 pm
| amother OP wrote: | I left work when my first was born because I wasn’t up to going back. I also had ppd and on meds .
Now I am ready for a social life and adult interaction which is important to me, but I love staying home with my baby and taking care of him
We’re not desperate for the money. We’re able to make it work on my husbands salary, I’m not gonna say we have a lot of extra money but it’s working for now as long as we’re careful.
On the other hand, having money is important to me, saving is important to me. We have a little bit of savings we worked hard to save after we were married, and we have a down payment taken care of.
Regarding social life, if I make it a priority to go out to weddings, parties, events, and schedule time with friends I can take care of that aspect without working
I’m nervous that working will take too much of a toll on me after a little while. The meds I’m on make me very tired, and changing them isn’t an option right now so it’ll be like this for at least another 6 months to a year.
I like having more financial freedom and savings, it makes me feel more secure. I also like feeling accomplished and productive by working. But I’m not sure it’s worth it.
The reason I need to decide now is because I found a good potential job that’ll work with my hours. And a good babysitter too.
Can anyone give me their perspective on this? |
Only you can decide what's right for you.
The good news is that you actually have a choice to make that will not hurt your family financially.
Personally I would never give up time home with my children, especially while they are babies, unless my income was necessary to get by. Way too precious in my eyes. But that was me following my desire and gut. You're got to follow your own. Doesn't matter what anyone else here tells you.
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amother
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Yesterday at 2:34 pm
If you can swing it the first year is so important for the baby, I always say if it’s financially feasible until their 18 months really 3 years they just need mommy… there are mommy and mes, playground is amazing to meet moms…
I know it’s unusual to be a SAHM and you’ll get lots of comments it can be unnerving trying to explain why you’re home with your baby. 🙈
but if you can try those first 5 years are the most important! They’re in preschool before you know it! You can’t get those years back.
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amother
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Yesterday at 2:35 pm
| amother Dimgray wrote: | If you can swing it the first year is so important for the baby, I always say if it’s financially feasible until their 18 months really 3 years they just need mommy… there are mommy and mes, playground is amazing to meet moms…
I know it’s unusual to be a SAHM and you’ll get lots of comments it can be unnerving trying to explain why you’re home with your baby. 🙈
but if you can try those first 5 years are the most important! |
Im already getting comments lol
Like what do u do all day why aren’t u working
Because til now I couldn’t 🤷♀️
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imaima
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Yesterday at 2:42 pm
| amother OP wrote: | Im already getting comments lol
Like what do u do all day why aren’t u working
Because til now I couldn’t 🤷♀️ |
My baby is a full time job is a good answer
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amother
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Yesterday at 2:43 pm
| amother OP wrote: | Im already getting comments lol
Like what do u do all day why aren’t u working
Because til now I couldn’t 🤷♀️ |
It’s unfortunate I’m in the playground with the nannys but I’ve learned to ignore the comments.
You’ll get comments on imamother too lol🙈
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amother
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Yesterday at 6:26 pm
Thing is by the time this one is in preschool there may be another…
I think I’m going to try it out and give it a good 2 months to adjust. I’ll see how it’s working for me. I may really end up enjoying it.
I know and trust the babysitter and it’s a small group. I’ll have all the time after 3pm to be with him
Thanks everyone for your input
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