Fighting the anesthesia 😭 why are they so rough

amother

OP ↓

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 10:39 am

Just took my four year old girlie into her sedated MRI. I explained to her during the car ride that she’ll need to take a nap for this appointment, and while I was getting her into her gown I told her they’ll put a mask and she’ll fall asleep. She was fighting the anesthesia and I feel like they were so so rough. They wanted me out of the room so soon, but I stayed the longest I could, kissed her, held her hand. But I feel horrible 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

I would bawl my eyes out now but the waiting room is packed.

Beautiful

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 10:47 am

I'm sorry! Some kids just calm down but in other kids it arouses a fight response.

amother

Buttercup

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 10:50 am

If it makes you feel better she won't remember it at all. Don't worry, she'll be ok. She won't be traumatized. I know how you feel. Hug

amother

↑ OP

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 10:53 am

amother Buttercup wrote:

If it makes you feel better she won't remember it at all. Don't worry, she'll be ok. She won't be traumatized. I know how you feel. Hug

She remembers things for years.. she’s not typical.. how do I know she won’t be quietly traumatized?

giftedmom

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 10:55 am

I never cry in public but I bawled my eyes out when my toddler was sedated for an MRI

miami85

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 10:58 am

amother OP wrote:

She remembers things for years.. she’s not typical.. how do I know she won’t be quietly traumatized?

It's probably a "normal" defense response to fight something being put on her face, but overtime these kinds of memories do fade. I have some very verbal and bright kids and I've been surprised by the things that they "no longer remember" years later.

Raizle

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 10:58 am

amother OP wrote:

She remembers things for years.. she’s not typical.. how do I know she won’t be quietly traumatized?

Well she's 4 so .... For years?😉
But anyway kids are resilient. I think you'll be more traumatized then she will. Just shower with love after the procedure. She'll be fine

One of my kids required surgery a few times. It seemed traumatic at the time, even had a reaction to medication. He/she is fine now, no lingering trauma.
I think because it's physical and there is no emotion involved and I was there to love and support them through it

amother

Valerian

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 11:10 am

amother OP wrote:

She remembers things for years.. she’s not typical.. how do I know she won’t be quietly traumatized?

It’s interesting, my little sister was like that, she was able to remember stuff from a very young age.
I think after the MRI, if she’s feeling up for it, take her for ice cream or something. If she does remember this, hopefully it’ll be that it was a little scary but mommy held her hand the whole time and that she was a very brave little girl. And the ice cream definitely helps:)

Hope she feels good!

oneofakind

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 2:09 pm

Can you give her some oral sedative before to relax her before the mask? Ask your doctor for a suggestion or prescription. Benadryl?

amother

Calendula

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 2:11 pm

oneofakind wrote:

Can you give her some oral sedative before to relax her before the mask? Ask your doctor for a suggestion or prescription. Benadryl?

I was going to mention this. My kids dr uses something they call ‘giggle’ juice. It relaxes the kid tremendously.

amother

Ebony

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 2:13 pm

oneofakind wrote:

Can you give her some oral sedative before to relax her before the mask? Ask your doctor for a suggestion or prescription. Benadryl?

This. I got DD Versed in a similar situation.

amother

Lightcyan

Wed, Sep 04 2024, 2:21 pm

With my son, he was 3. We talked about it a lot afterward. I helped him retell the story many times to help him process it. I also took him for craniosacral therapy. He's 6 now and is bh doing great. Couple months ago, I mentioned it and he looked at me blankly like he had no idea what I was talking about. I like to think that he processed it and moved on and is hopefully no longer effected by it.