am I doing something wrong?

amother

Mon, Dec 31 2007, 1:46 pm

I am very involved in my three year olds class, because I am one of the only parents who pick up and drop off my daughter, and she doesnt go on the bus so I speak to the teachers every day, and they tell me how my daughters day went.

the teacher tells me if something happened that day that she thinks I might want to know about. now I know my daughter very well, so I usually know the reasons why she does something. for example, today the teacher told me a new kid was crying alot because she wanted her mother. (now I know my daughter is very intune with her feelings and the feelings of others, and I know that when a child cries she many times comes to me looking sad and she asks me why they are sad, or if they are ok... and I reassure her that thier fine and thier mommies will (hopefully) take care of them, and that people cry when they are sad and thats ok...) so anyways, the teacher went on to tell me that my daughter also started crying that she wants ME. she never did that before, she just wanted to let me know that maybe she was copying the pther girl but whatever she hugged her etc... and Its totally not a big deal at all, but without thinking I just said " oh u know she prob felt very bad that the new girl was crying so much, so she started crying too.." and she told me, "listen im just telling you what happened..."

shes a very sweet teacher, but Im just wondering if I shouldnt ever give reasons and to why I think she might be doing something. I am not sure oif its in my head or it really bothers her when I do it, but either way, what are ure opinions? im feeling a little bad, because I feel like I annoy her when I do this, when really, who doesnt want to discuss thier childs behaviors and reasons for things??

gryp

Tue, Jan 01 2008, 8:27 pm

Amother, I also maintain a strong presence in my child's classroom. I think it's important- if the teacher has something to tell me, I'm right there.

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so I speak to the teachers every day, and they tell me how my daughters day went.

Can I say "lucky you?" Wink

I had that last year but this year I don't, and the change was practically a culture shock.

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the teacher went on to tell me that my daughter also started crying that she wants ME. she never did that before, she just wanted to let me know that maybe she was copying the pther girl but whatever she hugged her etc... and Its totally not a big deal at all, but without thinking I just said " oh u know she prob felt very bad that the new girl was crying so much, so she started crying too.." and she told me, "listen im just telling you what happened..."

Do you think the teacher misunderstood your daughter? Is it at all possible that the story happened the way the teacher said it did?
(I know that's off-topic.)

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shes a very sweet teacher, but Im just wondering if I shouldnt ever give reasons and to why I think she might be doing something. I am not sure oif its in my head or it really bothers her when I do it, but either way, what are ure opinions? im feeling a little bad, because I feel like I annoy her when I do this, when really, who doesnt want to discuss thier childs behaviors and reasons for things??

Teachers and parents look at a child differently. A child can act differently in the different settings of home and school.
If I thought the teacher was very in tune to my child and appreciated him for who he is, I would discuss his behavior with her. Or if my child had a problem that needed to be solved. Otherwise, I would stop if I saw my input wasn't much appreciated, but I would make sure to be just as nice and friendly towards the teacher so there is no hard feelings.