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amother

↑ Chambray

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:01 am

cinnamom wrote:

6 year olds aren't at an age where they're necessarily thinking before speaking or filtering through their thoughts. A rebbe teaching that age should understand that and know how to be mechanech and correct behavior for the future. Not take personal offense and punish a child for it. Kids need to be shown how to integrate into polite society by course correction or by watching others setting an example. Punishing him for a moment of thoughtless behavior doesn't teach him how to be a mentsch in the long run. Sure, kids can be mean, but as the adult it's on you (rebbe, in this case) to turn it into a teaching moment.

In this case the rebba should have ignored it. The child didn't tell the rebba that he's a monkey. The rebba believed the child that tattled & punished the kid based on that. I'm baffled by this behavior from a rebba & I would bring this up with the principal.

↑ B'Syata D'Shmya

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:18 am

amother Pear wrote:

Read her post again. She did not say she thinks it's adorable. She was questioning why someone else said that it's adorable.

I didnt see anyone else writing it was adorable. I did see Chanatron saying she would hide a giggle or something like that. Thats OK as long as you hide it well.
I would not hide a giggle, I would explain to my child - 6 years or 4 years old, that its hurtful, and nivul peh and disrespectful (in language they can comprehend).
You want to giggle later? go ahead.

amother

↑ Salmon

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:54 am

amother Chambray wrote:

But the child didn't say it to the rebba.
A different child went to tattle to the rebba & the rebba believed the 6 year old tattle & punished a 6 year old because of that. That is really immature and inappropriate of the rebba.

He sounds like he believes all things kids say. Poor guy must think hes a monkey now!

amother

Stone ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 11:48 am

Do you use the word monkey at home? Monkey see, monkey do.
Definitely speak to him about it, but also stop using that word if you do.

↑ chanatron1000

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 4:39 pm

amother Tomato wrote:

I seem to recall a very different reaction from you when my 4-year-old referred to their bus driver as a monkey (to me). It was around the time of the George Floyd riots and although tempers were flaring, the irony is glaring. Calling a rebbe a monkey? Adorable. Calling a bus driver a monkey? Unacceptable, disrespectful...oh, the irony is real here.

Okay, so since it seems at least 6 people do supposedly remember this incident, can someone provide context? Because without it this is a genuinely unhinged thing to post as amother.

amother

↑ Stone

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 4:41 pm

chanatron1000 wrote:

Okay, so since it seems at least 6 people do remember this incident, can someone provide context? Because without it this is a genuinely unhinged thing to post as amother.

Honestly, people can change. George Floyd riots were a long time ago. It's ok. I think it's against the site rules to do this anyways.

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