Support. Giving very little to Rebbeim

amother

OP ↓

Yesterday at 1:38 pm

I just want support. Or other parents who are in my situation.
I am giving $20 for Rebbeim, $18 each for my daughter's Hebrew and English teachers and $10 for my boys English teacher. $5 for therapists and kriah Morah.
All together I'm paying over $300. I don't know exactly how I'm going to afford it, but I feel like I need to.

Anyone else in my situation. Giving as much as you can and feeling like it's just not enough.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 4:35 pm

Anyone else like me.
I'm feeling so alone. I was with acquaintances and they're all "im giving each Rebbi $100, im giving each Morah $75, they deserve it".
It's undeniable that they deserve it. But I can't be the only one who just can't afford it because I need to pay food, rent, etc.

amother

Aqua ↓

Yesterday at 4:38 pm

yes and I myself am a therapist. I am using my grocery money to give tips and eating really low cost meals this week- eggs, pasta, soup, etc. I know how little therapists and teachers make (sometimes living paycheck to paycheck) so Im killing myself to do this because I feel guilty otherwise. Im so sorry for what we are both going through!

amother

Ivory

Yesterday at 4:42 pm

When I taught, I appreciated the $18 donations just as much as the bigger ones, if not more. I know those people really WANTED to show appreciation and that's what mattered. There is something very touching that I can't explain, but your sincerity comes through in your gift.

amother

↑ OP

Yesterday at 4:43 pm

amother Aqua wrote:

Lol eggs are not a low-cost meal.
Just fyi.

amother

↑ Aqua

Yesterday at 4:45 pm

amother OP wrote:

Lol eggs are not a low-cost meal.
Just fyi.

ha true. I took a carton of eggs from my sister so its low cost to me since I only have to make pita to go with the shakshuka

amother

DarkRed

Yesterday at 5:20 pm

I live in Baltimore. The school I send to suggest $20 per child, total for rebbeim AND secular studies. It's a perfectly reasonable amount you're giving. Most important is the note!!!

amother

Foxglove

Yesterday at 5:35 pm

Don't feel bad. Give what you can. I'm giving a smaller amount too and my kids have wealthy classmates and I'm sure most people will give more. I was talking to a rebbe and he said he absolutely doesn't think worse of kids that give less or treat that gives more better. I hope my kids rebbeim do the same.

amother

DarkOrange

Yesterday at 5:50 pm

Had this conversation with some neighbors over shabbos. You are definitely not the only one! I'm giving $10 and it's a stretch for me. I am making sure to write a nice note.

amother

Seagreen

Yesterday at 8:44 pm

amother DarkRed wrote:

I live in Baltimore. The school I send to suggest $20 per child, total for rebbeim AND secular studies. It's a perfectly reasonable amount you're giving. Most important is the note!!!

wow I dont know which school in baltimore you send your kids to! because in my kids school the $20 gift is just for general studies teachers and assistants! if you want to give rebbi a gift you need to do that separately! I give $18-25 gifts to rebbeim at most because I cant afford more. I hope im not the only one who gives that.
Maybe check again that the school gift communication really does include rebbeim and not just general studies teachers?

amother

Denim

Yesterday at 8:46 pm

Im a morah and I don't even give money. A very nice personal note and something like a chocolate bar.