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chasdie Hashem ↓

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:41 am

Pls share practical tips how to remain calm at hectic timings :examples:
erev shabbas,erev making chasuna a child,by supper w a baby that’s x feeling well & screaming...
I know I can avoid laundry on Friday
& cook on Thursday..
B situations when I can’t do things ahead of game-or avoid certain extra Buisy situations ...how do moms remain so calm
Yes I know I’m not in charge HAshem is but still....
Thanks again
Lkng for grt ideas x to lash out at kids

lovingmommy3417

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 9:42 am

When I feel stressed I turn on music and dance. Make both myself and my kids happier.

zaq

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 11:53 am

Try deep breathing. It's proven to lower blood pressure, among other benefits. Or just go into a closet or other private, enclosed space where you won't be heard and shriek your kishkes out for a minute or two. Then return to your regular programming.

sitting

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 12:43 pm

So two things come to mind
One is practice whatever you're going to do WHEN YOUR Calm....it wld be challenging trying for ex box breaths when baby is screaming if you're not a pro at it.
practice bf the storm and hopefully it will come naturally during the storm (tiny storm I hope, if any !)
second which helps me , talk to yourself in your head or aloud if u need, "ok it's crazy in here . baby is screaming,.toddler has had an accident and pasta is boiling over, I'm gonna first lower water, then take baby and toddler upstairs, change toddler and feed baby with toddler and a book". talk yourself thru it so u know what's happening.....
or, "it's an HR to yt and very hectic. I'm gonna ask this kid to vaccume and hubby to hold baby while I jump in shower...."
just planning it aloud in your head helps.
also acknowledge ok this is stressful, here's the plan....

↑ chasdie Hashem

Thu, Oct 10 2024, 10:10 pm

Thanks !!!

316621

Fri, Oct 11 2024, 3:55 am

Fake it till you make it sometimes works for me.
At times I was extremely stressed (elevated heart rate, sweating and everything), and people around said "wow, you're such a calm mother!" LOL

Also, when you feel like raising your voice, lower your voice and speak in a quiet, super sweet and gentle demeanor. It feels off at first but I find that often it calms me. One more thing, when I'm close to yelling I picture someone else yelling at my kids and immediately feel sorry for them for being 'yelled at' and get all deffensive on their behalf and want to comfort them, so then I really talk nicely to them and mean it Smile

Doesn't always work but it does most of the time.
Good luck!

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