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amother
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 Yesterday at 1:46 pm
| amother OP wrote: | My son has fasted until chatzos. That isn’t the issue.
What happens after chatzos which is the longest and hardest part of the day is the question. |
He gets sent home from shul at that point and served a delicious meal bilka dips hot chulent and deli .he'll break his fast.
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ra_mom
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Yesterday at 5:50 pm
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I heard from a rav that it's not a thing and shouldn't be done. They'll be ready when they're old enough.
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Yesterday at 6:08 pm
| amother Hyacinth wrote: | Why in the world would you have to "see how they fast".
Many people have issues come up during a fast and if it's not a minor fast will call a Rav to see what to do about breaking it. Why would an extra fast help at all? |
One side of the family is great fasters, other side can’t fast for 10 seconds. So we want to see which side each child takes after. Plus it makes them less nervous when they see it’s not a big deal.
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amother
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Yesterday at 6:12 pm
I was always brought up to fast the 3 fasts before bar/bas mitzvah.
We held it was like a normal fast.
Before my daughter turned 12 we asked a very yeshivish Rov here and he said not a thing at all. He doesnt make his kids.
If they want to do a bit they can. Thats it.
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amother
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Yesterday at 8:48 pm
Yoma
הַתִּינוֹקוֹת, אֵין מְעַנִּין אוֹתָן בְּיוֹם הַכִּפּוּרִים, אֲבָל מְחַנְּכִין אוֹתָם לִפְנֵי שָׁנָה וְלִפְנֵי שְׁנָתַיִם, בִּשְׁבִיל שֶׁיִּהְיוּ רְגִילִין בַּמִּצְוֹת:
With regard to the children, one does not afflict them by withholding food on Yom Kippur; however, one trains them one year before or two years before they reach majority, by means of a partial fast lasting several hours, so that they will be accustomed to fulfill mitzvot.
I think specifically Yom Kippur and tisha b’av some ppl start from 9. (We are of German descent and keep yekke minhagim)
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NotInNJMommy
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Yesterday at 8:52 pm
Need? No. There’s no chiyuv.
I would encourage a boy that age to pick a goal for fasting and try to do that , but it’s totally self driven and up to him when/if he breaks the fast.
If he hasn’t done any practice fasts, maybe just try to fast during the night, maybe eat breakfast slightly later. The goal should be doable.
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amother
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Yesterday at 10:36 pm
| amother Hyacinth wrote: | Yes our yeshivish Rav agrees with that. There is no such thing as "practicing" to fast. You fast or you don't. Don't make a 12 year old suffer for no reason.
He says most that do it don't have that minhag they just "think" they're supposed to. |
I don't agree. I think that when someone first fasts only when they have to, there may be a lot of stress and worry that they wont be able to do it because they have no proof that they can. If the year or two beforehand they fast a good amount of the fast, they can gain a lot of confidence.
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