Son's psychologist

amother

OP ↓

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 12:23 pm

I had a meeting with my sons psychologist and the first question he asked was how I met my husband. Not drawing any conclusions but was that just an ice breaker or was there therapeutic value? just wondering...

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 2:19 pm

anything strange about it?

amother

Melon ↓

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 2:28 pm

amother OP wrote:

anything strange about it?

Well what was the rest of the conversation like

Molly Weasley ↓

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 2:32 pm

Male or female therapist? Who else was in the room?

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 2:34 pm

He asked me about my religious background, what I studied in school, the dynamics between me and my parents and then he went right into talking about my son. in other words, nothing actually asked about my son

amother

↑ OP

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 2:36 pm

Male, no one else. He had previously met me and my husband without asking such questions. This was supposed to be a quick procedural thing I had to take care of

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 2:48 pm

amother OP wrote:

Sounds like chit chat/ice breaker

You should always however follow your instinct. If you think it's creepy find somone else

amother

Turquoise

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 3:27 pm

It may have been an ice breaker or he may have been trying to ascertain something about how you and your husband relate to each other, what your backgrounds are etc. If you met at beshow etc.

amother

Anemone

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 4:01 pm

Molly Weasley wrote:

Sounds like chit chat/ice breaker

You should always however follow your instinct. If you think it's creepy find somone else

Asking about religious backgrounds and parental relationships is not chit chat. Those are very personal questions normal people wouldn’t ask in a regular social setting

amother

Oak

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 4:14 pm

I don’t know what’s the reason to go to a therapist and I just assume this a licensed psyd. And not just a social worker.

So these questions can be asked.when my mum brought me for an evaluation they talked about the dynamics etc this makes it clear if there might also be a relationship issue or that you have also issues in the dynamic and that not the child should have something.

amother

Ruby

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 4:32 pm

I wouldn't be too bothered by that

amother

↑ Melon ↓

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 7:54 pm

Rule of thumb if someone asks you a question you can first ask them why they are asking. Even a therapist “Interesting question I wonder why you want to know that” then you can decide if you want to answer

HakarasHatov

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 7:59 pm

My relative had this with a therapist that was just curious about from people.

amother

Candycane

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 8:33 pm

amother Anemone wrote:

Asking about religious backgrounds and parental relationships is not chit chat. Those are very personal questions normal people wouldn’t ask in a regular social setting

This is not a red flag if asked as part of gathering info for the social history of an evaluation.

↑ Molly Weasley

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 8:47 pm

amother Melon wrote:

True, but depending on the conversation, it's not always tactful

amother

↑ Melon

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 8:59 pm

Molly Weasley wrote:

True, but depending on the conversation, it's not always tactful

Im talking about when a question makes you uncomfortable. There is always a way to ask why they are asking

amother

Moccasin ↓

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 8:59 pm

amother Melon wrote:

I wish I had practiced this in a few situations
Great tip

amother

↑ Moccasin

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 9:36 pm

Molly Weasley wrote:

True, but depending on the conversation, it's not always tactful

F you’re uncomfortable it’s ok not to be tactful.

amother

Floralwhite

Mon, Aug 19 2024, 10:45 pm

amother OP wrote:

Sounds like he’s trying to get info about your son’s parents’ (you) background. Family history information