S/o friends couple vacations together

amother

Fern

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 12:57 pm

Do. Not. Ever.

Even with family, it sometimes gets sticky.

Ruchel

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 12:57 pm

Not in the same villa or Airbnb

In the same club or hotel.. Maybe some overlapping dates

amother

Oldlace

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 12:57 pm

My hot take is that you don’t know anyone’s shalom bayis and reasons for doing it or not doing it so MYOB.

amother

Mayflower

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:00 pm

With kids I’d go away to a private house with another family. But I wouldn’t go away just two couples to a house. Personally. I’ll have them to my house. Or a group of like 6 couples together. But just two couples seems very intimate.

amother

Dahlia ↓

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:01 pm

Yes with family, not with friends.

amother

Ruby ↓

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:01 pm

Really not appropriate. The circles I know who do, I know of quite a few stories where they got divorced and then married each other.

amother

Cinnamon

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:03 pm

Nothing wrong with it depending on the circumstances. As long as everyone is staying in their own place. Doing activities during the day together. In a house would only do it with 2 families kids and all
Eta pretty common in my community for couples to vacation together once all kids are grown. So I guess not as common for newlyweds

amother

Mustard ↓

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:04 pm

amother Ruby wrote:

Really not appropriate. The circles I know who do, I know of quite a few stories where they got divorced and then married each other.

You know these people personally?

amother

↑ Mustard

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:04 pm

amother Oldlace wrote:

My hot take is that you don’t know anyone’s shalom bayis and reasons for doing it or not doing it so MYOB.

There might be reasons that would enhance their shalom bayis to take a vacation with another couple?

amother

Blonde

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:05 pm

DH doesnt think its appropriate to even do a shabbos meal with another couple thats friends not family

tichellady

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:07 pm

Fine in my world. Personally, the details matter and certain things would be fine for me and other things would not be

Cheiny

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:17 pm

amother Mustard wrote:

You know these people personally?

I do.

amother

↑ OP

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:17 pm

I’m talking about they both have 1 baby.

I’m asking cause we did it once already and was so fun! Totally wasn’t inappropriate but the other thread has me wondering

amother

Daffodil

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:17 pm

That’s wild! My dream is to vacation with my DH. Never occurred to me to bring along another couple… it would feel less romantic

amother

Lightcyan

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:36 pm

amother OP wrote:

I’m talking about they both have 1 baby.

I’m asking cause we did it once already and was so fun! Totally wasn’t inappropriate but the other thread has me wondering

what thread is this is s/o off?

Cookin4days

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:39 pm

Did it with my cousin and her Dh, we stayed in the same hotel but we had no pressure to do every activity together, felt appropriate to me

amother

Lemonchiffon

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:39 pm

amother OP wrote:

I’m talking about they both have 1 baby.

I’m asking cause we did it once already and was so fun! Totally wasn’t inappropriate but the other thread has me wondering

Which thread is this?

I’ve never done it, but I’m not opposed. I love my husband and have no plans on cheating. Besides, I’m not the biggest fan of his friends. I do love their wives though and would love to do a families trip with them

amother

↑ Ruby

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:39 pm

amother Mustard wrote:

You know these people personally?

Yes I do

amother

Bone

Mon, Jul 22 2024, 1:42 pm

Not a great idea but there are some outliers where its probably not terrible. Depending on how you know each other, the relationships between everyone.

So there is two men who are friends. Man a's wife grew up with Man b and there is no interest either direction, and never ever has been. And man b's wife is a cousin of man a. The two women are very tzanua and are strict on appropriate behavior.

That would be an outlier. Usually its a terrible idea.