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amother
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 Mon, Jul 01 2024, 11:45 pm
My son is diabetic and has an aide in cheder. The aide's job is to check his sugar twice a day and to be on hand in case of emergency. Most of the day he's in the teacher's room and the rebbe knows to call him if anything goes wrong. (This was our preference since I don't want him to stand out by having someone on top of him all the time.)
During the time he's in the teacher's room, he runs a business. We've never discussed it at all, but I see his blog posts on his website and I can see the times they go up. I can tell he's online for hours on end taking care of business-related things. I am perfectly fine with that since it's not at my son's expense and he does his job with my son impeccably. He's extremely dedicated to him and very responsible. He really has nothing to do most of the time so it makes sense for him to be running his business then.
I don't know if he knows that I know about his business as it's never been relevant. It's never been discussed between us.
For his end-of-year gift, I was thinking of getting him a very nice wooden flash drive in a case with his business logo engraved on both the drive and the case. Considering everything I wrote above, do you think this is an appropriate gift?
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imaima
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Mon, Jul 01 2024, 11:49 pm
| amother OP wrote: | My son is diabetic and has an aide in cheder. The aide's job is to check his sugar twice a day and to be on hand in case of emergency. Most of the day he's in the teacher's room and the rebbe knows to call him if anything goes wrong. (This was our preference since I don't want him to stand out by having someone on top of him all the time.)
During the time he's in the teacher's room, he runs a business. We've never discussed it at all, but I see his blog posts on his website and I can see the times they go up. I can tell he's online for hours on end taking care of business-related things. I am perfectly fine with that since it's not at my son's expense and he does his job with my son impeccably. He's extremely dedicated to him and very responsible. He really has nothing to do most of the time so it makes sense for him to be running his business then.
I don't know if he knows that I know about his business as it's never been relevant. It's never been discussed between us.
For his end-of-year gift, I was thinking of getting him a very nice wooden flash drive in a case with his business logo engraved on both the drive and the case. Considering everything I wrote above, do you think this is an appropriate gift? |
1. Blog posts can be timed to go up automatically.
2. I think noone wants their own merchandise as a gift.
Makes no sense to me.
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 12:00 am
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If he doesn’t know that you know about it then no, I think that will make him uncomfortable..
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mummiedearest
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 4:29 am
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Appropriate or not, it sounds like an oddly specific choice for a thank you gift. Something generic would present better.
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 4:33 am
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 4:34 am
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I live in Israel where norms may be different. I think its such a nice and thoughtful idea! Not sure what a flash drive is but to get something with his logo is really nice.
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cupcake123
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 5:09 am
I think it's a cute and thoughtful gift.
I think people are thinking you're buying the gift from his aides business...
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 5:12 am
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Could be it’s a cute gift. But if in doubt, don’t. A gift is supposed to bring good feelings.
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 8:46 am
Thanks, going to go with something else!
(Just FTR, this is not his merchandise, it's something I was going to have custom made for him with his logo. Also, I've already given him many gifts throughout the year which is why I was looking for something a bit more original and not just the standard. In any case, going to try to think of something else unrelated to his business.)
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 8:59 am
That’s such a great setup with the aide! I love that you have him there when you need him but he gets to do his own work when he’s not on duty with your child. You’re very lucky to have someone like this. Many t1d parents have to drop everything and run to school a few times a day/week.
Nice thought about the gift, but I would get something generic, like an Amazon gift card with a nice thank you card,.
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 9:16 am
| amother Holly wrote: | That’s such a great setup with the aide! I love that you have him there when you need him but he gets to do his own work when he’s not on duty with your child. You’re very lucky to have someone like this. Many t1d parents have to drop everything and run to school a few times a day/week.
Nice thought about the gift, but I would get something generic, like an Amazon gift card with a nice thank you card,. |
I've already given him gifts cards, chocolates, wine, towels, etc. That's why I was looking for something a little different this time.
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 9:34 am
| amother OP wrote: | My son is diabetic and has an aide in cheder. The aide's job is to check his sugar twice a day and to be on hand in case of emergency. Most of the day he's in the teacher's room and the rebbe knows to call him if anything goes wrong. (This was our preference since I don't want him to stand out by having someone on top of him all the time.)
During the time he's in the teacher's room, he runs a business. We've never discussed it at all, but I see his blog posts on his website and I can see the times they go up. I can tell he's online for hours on end taking care of business-related things. I am perfectly fine with that since it's not at my son's expense and he does his job with my son impeccably. He's extremely dedicated to him and very responsible. He really has nothing to do most of the time so it makes sense for him to be running his business then.
I don't know if he knows that I know about his business as it's never been relevant. It's never been discussed between us.
For his end-of-year gift, I was thinking of getting him a very nice wooden flash drive in a case with his business logo engraved on both the drive and the case. Considering everything I wrote above, do you think this is an appropriate gift? |
I think it’s a little interesting to give him something with his own logo on it.
I am a photographer and I give out a beautiful wooden flash drive and case with my logo engraved on it to all of my clients with their photos. To me, it’s not a “gift” it’s a cheap commodity that is just part of business.
Also, even though I do use usbs so that my clients get something physical, they are really considered old tech. We have the cloud and Dropbox these days. I highly doubt he would use a usb in his business, and I also doubt he would care for one with his logo. And if he did, he could spend a couple dollars and do it himself.
I would appreciate something not related to my business as a gift. Just my two cents
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 9:55 am
I doubt a cutting edge business would still be using a flashdrive, so I'd choose something else to give.
Tbh, probably what he could most use is cash...if he's working as a student assistant while trying to get another business off the ground, he probably needs money more than anything else, so I'd do cash or a gift card.
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 11:03 am
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Instead of spending the money on something can you just give him cash?
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 11:27 am
How much do you want to spend?
I think flash drives are outdated. I run a business and haven't touched one in about a year..
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amother
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Tue, Jul 02 2024, 11:32 am
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Got it, no flash drive! No further replies needed!
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amother
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Mon, Jul 15 2024, 9:49 pm
I thought of this thread yesterday because three of my students gave me flash drives with my name engraved on them. Makes me think that the poster who wrote that it's different in Israel is correct. Apparently it's a pretty popular gift here.
Regarding the sensitivity of it having his logo when he runs his business during his time with my child, I don't think that's an issue anymore since he just advertised his business in the local community newspaper.
Still think it's a bad idea? The ones I got from my students are really beautiful mahagony flash drives in a wooden box with my name engraved both on the box and the flash drive.
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singleagain
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Tue, Jul 16 2024, 2:07 am
| amother OP wrote: | I thought of this thread yesterday because three of my students gave me flash drives with my name engraved on them. Makes me think that the poster who wrote that it's different in Israel is correct. Apparently it's a pretty popular gift here.
Regarding the sensitivity of it having his logo when he runs his business during his time with my child, I don't think that's an issue anymore since he just advertised his business in the local community newspaper.
Still think it's a bad idea? The ones I got from my students are really beautiful mahagony flash drives in a wooden box with my name engraved both on the box and the flash drive. |
If it's a thing in your culture. Go for it.
It's pretty objectively weird to get a 13-year-old a silver drinking cup for wine. But we do that all the time.
So therefore, if it's something within your culture then do it. If you feel like you need some confirmation from people within your culture, I believe there is a subgroup here called Life in Israel and you can post there to make sure that the idea is solid.
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TR91
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Tue, Jul 16 2024, 2:33 am
| singleagain wrote: |
It's pretty objectively weird to get a 13-year-old a silver drinking cup for wine. But we do that all the time. |
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amother
Outerspace
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Tue, Jul 16 2024, 6:01 am
| amother OP wrote: | I thought of this thread yesterday because three of my students gave me flash drives with my name engraved on them. Makes me think that the poster who wrote that it's different in Israel is correct. Apparently it's a pretty popular gift here.
Regarding the sensitivity of it having his logo when he runs his business during his time with my child, I don't think that's an issue anymore since he just advertised his business in the local community newspaper.
Still think it's a bad idea? The ones I got from my students are really beautiful mahagony flash drives in a wooden box with my name engraved both on the box and the flash drive. |
Do whatever you feel is best, I still feel it's a very specific kind of gift that may or may not be appreciated
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