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-> Parenting our children
Which gender would you choose?
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amother
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 Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:00 pm
If you could have multiple children but only one gender, which would you prefer.
And why?
Asking out of curiosity what people would prefer.
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amother
Acacia
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:03 pm
I like having both. I'm sure I'd feel a void with only one.
That being said, my girls are way easier.
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amother
Cyclamen
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:06 pm
Boys because they have a much easier time in shidduchim (yeshivish)
We have a few strikes against us and I'm terrified for my girls.
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yachnabobba
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:12 pm
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My boys are awesome!!! And don’t cycle hormones on a monthly basis
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amother
Purple
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:13 pm
Boys
I grew up in a boy family and I feel like they are easier to raise
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amother
Charcoal
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:15 pm
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How do I choose? I have both and cant imagine life without some of them chas veshalom
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amother
Pink
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:16 pm
Girls for the one reason that they usually stick around more after marriage and when raising their own kids
Obviously there are always exceptions
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amother
Lemon
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:16 pm
Boys!!!
I have mostly boys, and 3 girls under them - they are so moody, kvetchy…
Boys are so much fun a we have a great time together.
Iyh I’ll say that about my girls too 
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amother
NeonPurple
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:17 pm
I have both, I'm fine either way. In my totally biased opinion, my kids are all awesome 
Bris's make me nervous, but that's over with really quick and pretty minor. Otherwise, I can't think of anything to push me one direction or the other. Level of difficulty isn't any different in my experience so far.
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amother
Ballota
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:19 pm
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I love my boys but would prefer girls. Easier and less stressful. And they have a lighter schedule so can do more fun things with them.
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amother
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:20 pm
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I have only girls and I love it. It’s familiar territory and I watch my friends struggle with how to deal with their teen boys. I also have a clean house and calm play and when we have boys over I’m just anxious the whole time from the wild, mess and chaos.
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amother
Cherry
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:25 pm
I have both genders and they're all under the age of 5 so I don't know enough to really have a preference one way or another. But if I had to pick now I'd say girls, for several reasons:
-That old adage that "Your son is your son til he gets himself a wife, your daughter's your daughter for the rest of her life."
-As much as I plan to raise my kids to take equal responsibility for our household, and help where possible with any chores, I feel like girls are typically just more geshikt, and will also have a schedule more conducive to helping with everything, and my lazy self is already looking forward to having competent helpers instead of just messmakers (Dooooon't worry, I won't parentify them, I just mean- someone to help me bake and cook and set the table and and keep an eye on the other kids for an hour so I can nap on shabbos here and there, nothing more than I grew up with myself).
-I feel like as a woman I'll probably have more to bond with them over similar experiences? Tho I know people come in all types of personalities and could be my son will end up more my type one day, who knows I'm just making a guess here.
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amother
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:34 pm
| amother Powderblue wrote: | | I have only girls and I love it. It’s familiar territory and I watch my friends struggle with how to deal with their teen boys. I also have a clean house and calm play and when we have boys over I’m just anxious the whole time from the wild, mess and chaos. |
Having only girls is no guarantee of a clean house and calm play. You lucked out with calm, neat girls. I have only girls and they play as rough as any boys I've met. They are loud, tend to be overly hyper, leave a trail of messes behind them, and don't seem to care about keeping their belongings neat (and no, they are not all little I already have a few who are teens).
With that being said if I had to choose I'd choose only girls. But that's mostly just because I don't have any boys so all I know is raising girls. Maybe if I had sons to compare to I'd feel differently.
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amother
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:38 pm
So interesting to see that the poll results don’t lean in one direction.
I have one of each and expecting my third. Obviously I can’t control the gender but I find myself constantly thinking about which gender id prefer, and I cannot make up my mind. It’s too early to find out now anyway… and I guess it’s better not to have a preference.
This topic is just something I always think about. I used to say I’d prefer a girl family over a boy family but I’m not sure… my daughter requires way more of my energy and patience than my son.
But when I think of boy families I think of constant mess and dirt.
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amother
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:39 pm
| amother Trillium wrote: | Having only girls is no guarantee of a clean house and calm play. You lucked out with calm, neat girls. I have only girls and they play as rough as any boys I've met. They are loud, tend to be overly hyper, leave a trail of messes behind them, and don't seem to care about keeping their belongings neat (and no, they are not all little I already have a few who are teens).
With that being said if I had to choose I'd choose only girls. But that's mostly just because I don't have any boys so all I know is raising girls. Maybe if I had sons to compare to I'd feel differently. |
I don’t think I lucked out I set the tone of the house. It’s easy for girls to be ok with it harder to get boys to not climb walls and throw things.
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amother
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:48 pm
Boys boys boys.
I don't relate to girls that well, I guess I'm just more masculine. My brothers are my favorite siblings, I enjoyed hanging out with them and shmoozing with them. There's very little drama in their lives , not that much gossip,and while they were hard teens they did a lot better then my sisters and I.
I myself have one child, a boy, and I dream of giving him loads of brothers some day.
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Chayalle
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 2:57 pm
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I have all girls. They have brought home some really nice boys. There definitely is a void having only one gender, so I'd say pray for both, and then accept whatever silver lining comes with what you get.
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amother
Starflower
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 3:21 pm
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I have four and four. I'd never choose one over the other.
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amother
Peru
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 3:28 pm
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I have a large family of girls and a single boy. I picked all girls, because I would still know how to parent if I had all girls. I would have no idea what I was doing if I had all boys. PS- I adore my son. But he is who he is partially because he has all sisters.
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amother
Skyblue
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Tue, Jun 04 2024, 3:58 pm
I voted girls because most kids tend to be closer to their mothers side of the family and I'd be devastated to not be as close with future grandkids.
I currently have 3 boys and feel a serious void but I know I'd feel the same void if I had only girls at this point
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