Yichud room gift? | Imamother

grace413

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 11:26 am

Genius wrote:

Countries spent billions to try to see and investigate other planets. You get it for free and you’re running the other way?!

amother

↑ OP

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 11:37 am

amother [ Antiquewhite ] wrote:

Haha yes. That means less than nothing to me. I gave myself fro my husband but he gave himself to me too. Our commitment is mutual.

So she gives herself, and he gives himself plus expensive jewelry. Yeah seems balanced.

amother

↑ Powderblue

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 11:40 am

salt wrote:

I'll be surprised if this explanation goes down well here, but let's see...

Lol! I was expecting rocks coming my way... Guess your comment stopped them in their tracks. I even prepared a whole list of counterattacks that I can now safely put away. Thanks

amother

Cyclamen

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 11:43 am

Cufflinks, purchased by my parents.
But I know of a lot of couples where the boy doesn't get anything...

amother

Bergamot

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 11:44 am

I gave a siddur that I inscribed (that dh actually picked out in the store with me 🤦🏼‍♀️) and a few shticky things that I knew he would appreciate ( a drink he liked for breaking fast etc)

amother

↑ Antiquewhite

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 11:44 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

So she gives herself, and he gives himself plus expensive jewelry. Yeah seems balanced.

You must have missed my post upthread saying that we exchanged gifts.

amother

Brown

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 11:50 am

She is the one many times setting up a beautiful apt for both of them….
She had to do the work of mikvah etc….

I’m okay with her getting a gift!

amother

Mint

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 11:53 am

My husband asked for a kiss but I was in automatic air kiss mode from the whole kabolas panim already so thats what I gave him haha

amother

Peony

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 12:27 pm

I gave him a wedding ring, he gave me my ring under the chuppah so I didn't get anything else

amother

Canary

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 12:35 pm

I asked him to give us the gift of not going into debt the night of our marriage and to not give any such gifts. Neither of us came from money, and he paid for the ring on his own, and together we were paying for the wedding and setting up apartment expenses.

There were people who asked what he gave me - and they had no idea how hard it was to hear those questions.

amother

Babypink

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 12:40 pm

amother [ Mint ] wrote:

My husband asked for a kiss but I was in automatic air kiss mode from the whole kabolas panim already so thats what I gave him haha

Ouch!

I was all geared up for that first kiss on the lips!

amother

Crystal

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 1:07 pm

He gave me a necklace (pearls, cuz I'm classic that way Wink

) and I gave him cufflinks. Pretty sure cufflinks is pretty standard in my circles (not everyone, but typical)

amother

↑ Mayflower

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 4:00 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

So she gives herself, and he gives himself plus expensive jewelry. Yeah seems balanced.

I bought my then fiance an expensive cologne he really wanted for our engagement.
However, I do feel that, in a relationship, things don't always need to be the same to be balanced.
For example, our purchases this week: my husband bought a new car, and I got two new mitpachot.
I don't want a car, and he definitely doesn't want a mitpachat.

amother

↑ Seafoam

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 4:39 pm

I actually gave my DH a framed picture of him and his Rosh Yeshiva from our vort. It cost a few dollars but was very meaningful, still on display today on our side table 20 years later