Yichud room gift? | Imamother

amother

OP ↓

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 1:56 am

I know the boy often gives the girl a necklace in the yichud room. Is there anything classy for the girl to give the boy at that point?

amother

Birch

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 2:16 am

Siddur and Tehillim that I inscribed. Nearly 40 years and he still uses it. (me too!)

mochamix18

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 2:54 am

Our wedding was R”H Adar Bet (leap year like this one). I got him a personalized wooden gragger because I knew his old one had broke. My husband loved it.

amother

Powderblue ↓

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 4:46 am

I once heard a shiur and the speaker asked why the chosson gives a gift but the Kallah doesn't. She explained that the Kallah gives herself to her husband. Her body, her wants, her desires, she gives herself over to her husband. That's her gift
Not to say that she's not allowed to give a gift, was just an interesting explanation

salt

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 5:04 am

amother [ Powderblue ] wrote:

I'll be surprised if this explanation goes down well here, but let's see...

amother

Bellflower

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 5:21 am

my son is getting married on sunday
he is giving her a gift in the yichud room and she is not giving him anything.
it was the same with me at my wedding also

amother

Stoneblue

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 7:25 am

I have dh a bottle of his favorite shnapps (purchased with my own money but by my father because I was under age!)

amother

Glitter

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 7:44 am

amother [ Bellflower ] wrote:

my son is getting married on sunday
he is giving her a gift in the yichud room and she is not giving him anything.
it was the same with me at my wedding also

How do you know she has nothing planned?

amother

Mayflower ↓

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 8:14 am

amother [ Powderblue ] wrote:

Interesting idea. My husband gave me my wedding ring (with diamonds, unlike the simple band we got married with). I did, actually, "present" myself to him. We each said words we'd prepared about our commitment to each other.

amother

Amber ↓

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 9:03 am

salt wrote:

I'll be surprised if this explanation goes down well here, but let's see...

I don't even know where to begin with that explanation.
When you realize several times in a row that you live on an entirely different planet than so many posters, it's time to take a break from imamother.

amother

↑ Antiquewhite ↓

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 9:17 am

salt wrote:

I'll be surprised if this explanation goes down well here, but let's see...

Haha yes. That means less than nothing to me. I gave myself fro my husband but he gave himself to me too. Our commitment is mutual.

Genius

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 10:22 am

amother [ Amber ] wrote:

Countries spent billions to try to see and investigate other planets. You get it for free and you’re running the other way?!

amother

Daisy

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 10:25 am

We did not exchange gifts in the yichud room. Neither of us realized it was customary. We broke our fast, snuggled a little, and tidied up for pictures.

miami85

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 10:43 am

I got my husband cufflinks, and had to make sure he wore a french-cuff shirt for the wedding.

amother

↑ Amber

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 11:08 am

Genius wrote:

Countries spent billions to try to see and investigate other planets. You get it for free and you’re running the other way?!

Yes, true! That's why I keep coming back Smile

essie14

Thu, Feb 17 2022, 11:16 am

amother [ Daisy ] wrote:

We did not exchange gifts in the yichud room. Neither of us realized it was customary. We broke our fast, snuggled a little, and tidied up for pictures.

We specifically spoke before about not exchanging gifts. We are not in circles where it's "customary". I fail to see why it's customary or necessary. You just got so many gifts and you're in the middle of the biggest party of your life.