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amother
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I don’t want to say anymore. But if I pass a bridge right now it will be dangerous
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 4:50 pm
You need to choose your mental health.
Can anybody help?
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Aster
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 4:54 pm
I am so sorry you are going through this
Hold on tight
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 4:57 pm
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Nobody on this earth knows what gehenom we are going through. I can’t even try to begin to explain. This 12 yo child is a tzaddik as soon as he leaves the door. Everybody adores him. Therapist can’t really find what’s wrong with him. I can hide a recorder but I need to find someone intelligent to listen to it
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 4:59 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | Nobody on this earth knows what gehenom we are going through. I can’t even try to begin to explain. This 12 yo child is a tzaddik as soon as he leaves the door. Everybody adores him. Therapist can’t really find what’s wrong with him. I can hide a recorder but I need to find someone intelligent to listen to it |
New York, New Jersey or somewhere else?
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 4:59 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | Nobody on this earth knows what gehenom we are going through. I can’t even try to begin to explain. This 12 yo child is a tzaddik as soon as he leaves the door. Everybody adores him. Therapist can’t really find what’s wrong with him. I can hide a recorder but I need to find someone intelligent to listen to it | Not being believed is the worst
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 5:05 pm
You said it! So I stopped complaining to people!! I cry to Hashem every day. But this child needs help
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 5:15 pm
OP, I get you! It's hard!! Exhausting, emotionally and even physically. Over time and some particularly low points with my DC, I shifted my perspective a bit. Instead of saying 'I can't anymore', (which I've said plenty!) I say, 'Hashem, you are an equal partner in this child, please let me feel that! it feels like to much for just me!' and/or Hashem, you gave me this child, you must think I know what I'm doing or how to help him but, I don't! So please show me!!
I can't tell you it works, but it makes me feel better, less like it's all on me or because of me.
I hope you find the support you want for you and your son!
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 5:39 pm
| amother Mauve wrote: | OP, I get you! It's hard!! Exhausting, emotionally and even physically. Over time and some particularly low points with my DC, I shifted my perspective a bit. Instead of saying 'I can't anymore', (which I've said plenty!) I say, 'Hashem, you are an equal partner in this child, please let me feel that! it feels like to much for just me!' and/or Hashem, you gave me this child, you must think I know what I'm doing or how to help him but, I don't! So please show me!!
I can't tell you it works, but it makes me feel better, less like it's all on me or because of me.
I hope you find the support you want for you and your son! |
Thank you this means a lot!
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 5:42 pm
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Has he been evaluated? A huge part of the evaluation is the parent’s account.
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 5:43 pm
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I sometimes wish I can cut his tongue off! He talks so fast non stop. His language is not to explain! He keeps comparing my every move to his other siblings. And challenges my every single breathe of my life! Wheeeeww bh he’s asleep by now and I wish I have the capacity to kiss his forehead in his sleep. I really love him
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 5:46 pm
| amother Waterlily wrote: | | Has he been evaluated? A huge part of the evaluation is the parent’s account. |
Yes when he first started therapy, we were told to give a rundown on his behavior. 4 months have passed and I don’t think this therapist is right for him. He’s supposed to be top in my area. Where should I turn to now? He needs help controlling his thoughts and emotions and actions asap. The entire house wants to see him on a plane!
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 5:48 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | You said it! So I stopped complaining to people!! I cry to Hashem every day. But this child needs help |
Sounds like my husband.
So sorry, I hope you see the light at the end of the tunnel very soon.
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 6:00 pm
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Take him to a psychiatrist for an evaluation.
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 6:11 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | Yes when he first started therapy, we were told to give a rundown on his behavior. 4 months have passed and I don’t think this therapist is right for him. He’s supposed to be top in my area. Where should I turn to now? He needs help controlling his thoughts and emotions and actions asap. The entire house wants to see him on a plane! |
He might need meds it’s usually the answer to out of control behavior. Switch therapists asap. I meant a full neuropsych eval to get a proper picture of his issues.
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 6:12 pm
| amother OP wrote: | | I sometimes wish I can cut his tongue off! He talks so fast non stop. His language is not to explain! He keeps comparing my every move to his other siblings. And challenges my every single breathe of my life! Wheeeeww bh he’s asleep by now and I wish I have the capacity to kiss his forehead in his sleep. I really love him |
Sounds a lot like adhd
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 6:29 pm
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No advice, just wanna say that my brother was an extremely difficult child too. I remember my mother crying about him in her room when I was a little girl...All of us siblings remember how difficult he was. Today he is a wonderful talmud chachom and maggid shiur. Hashem should give you koach.
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 6:46 pm
| oneofakind wrote: | | Take him to a psychiatrist for an evaluation. |
Can any organization guide me? Where do I start?
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amother
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Mon, Nov 04 2024, 6:48 pm
| amother Waterlily wrote: | | He might need meds it’s usually the answer to out of control behavior. Switch therapists asap. I meant a full neuropsych eval to get a proper picture of his issues. |
For sure needs meds. But need to find someone to guide me. I’m in the car with hub I told him to make one reach out phone call or else he can drive over my body
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