I’m doing something wrong

amother

Amethyst

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 10:57 am

You aren’t doing anything wrong! He’s a newborn! Newborns aren’t supposed to have schedules. Don’t worry! Also, babies keep changing. In a week or two he probably won’t be doing this. Newborns also tend to be nocturnal and after a few weeks flip their schedules to be more awake by day and sleep longer stretches at night. By 6 months usually they are down to 2 naps a day, once in the morning and once in the afternoon. Don’t worry you got this Smile

↑ imaima

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 11:16 am

amother OP wrote:

Can you tell he’s my first? TMI

I thought babies aren’t supposed to have huge stretches of awake time like that

He is not supposed to but he needs help at this stage. 6 weeks is the peak of fussiness. Evening time is notorious that babies go crazy then. He does need sleep. But it’s notmal that he has a difficult time

#BestBubby

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 11:24 am

My 2 month einikel takes one 2 hour nap by day.

Plus a few 20 minute cat naps.

Goes to sleep around 8.30 pm- 8.30 am
( Nurses and goes back to sleep at night)

amother

↑ OP ↓

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 11:59 am

He wakes up at night every 2-4 hours.
When he’s up from 5 until 1 he is either up or sucking his paci

amother

Emerald

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 12:02 pm

Yeah I wouldn’t try s bedtime that early. I didn’t put mine to sleep until around 10 at that age. And I went to sleep when they did. My baby would wake every 2 hours to eat also.

↑ mizle10

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 12:08 pm

amother OP wrote:

Can you tell he’s my first? TMI

I thought babies aren’t supposed to have huge stretches of awake time like that

Breathe in, breathe out. You got this!! Very Happy

You're not doing anything wrong!
6.5 weeks is really very tiny and babies don't have a schedule yet. Every day will look different.
Anything is normal at that point, especially being fussy and unpredictable!!

Take it day by day, soothe him however you can and try to sleep when he does!

Officially putting them by the sunlight helps them regulate night and day but I haven't seen any difference.

An interesting fun fact my dr told me, when we're pregnant and moving around all day it rocks the baby to sleep. When we sleep at night we're still and the baby wakes up. That's why they're born "jet lagged"!

Good luck!!

amother

Zinnia

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 12:20 pm

Let him nap 3x and them wear him out with a nice long bath. Feed him, and he should go to a sleep.

But I start much later, as I go to sleep very late.
I go to sleep around 1:00 at night so I put my babies in about 2 hrs before. Otherwise, when I want to get some sleep, they wake right up..

amother

↑ OP

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 12:26 pm

But why doesn’t he at least nap a little in between the afternoon and 1 am? I wouldn’t mind putting him in later but why is he not taking naps?

Brit in Israel

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 2:32 pm

amother OP wrote:

But why doesn’t he at least nap a little in between the afternoon and 1 am? I wouldn’t mind putting him in later but why is he not taking naps?

Many babies (not all) have one longer period when they are awake. It seems like yours is at the worst time for parents and a couple.
I wish I could give you advice on how to help but I can't remember and I don't think I managed with my kids.

I do remember a segula for them to wake up is to put hot food on your plate (or croutons in soup 😭) but I don't think I had one for putting them to sleep

Hashem_Yaazor

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 3:40 pm

😂

Pretty sure the segulah for them to fall asleep is to have an errand in 5 minutes you need to run to with the baby.

amother

Lime

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 4:10 pm

Sounds about right for a baby that age.
Their sleeping patterns change every few weeks for the first few months.
Lots of babies get their days and nights mixed up.
Don't feel bad! You're doing a great job!

↑ icedcoffee

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 4:11 pm

To clarify, it's not "typical" that he's awake from 6:45-1, but every baby is really doing their own thing at this age. If he seems content enough, I'd just give him time to figure it out. If he's screaming in misery from being overtired, that's a different story. I've spoken with many sleep trainers (unfortunately both my kids started off as horrible sleepers) and they all say at this age, the babies are "updating" so frequently that there isn't much point in intervention unless something is truly wrong.

rubyred

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 4:27 pm

amother OP wrote:

My baby can’t fall asleep until 1 am. I start bedtime around 6:45 and he stays up not able to fall asleep.
He naps up to two hours about 4 times a day?
What am I doing wrong?

Bedtime at 6:45 may be too early for a 6.5 week old. Try for a later bedtime between 8-10 and keep your baby up for an hour to an hour and a half before bedtime. Try to give an extra large feeding after the last nap and also right before bedtime.

amother

Pear ↓

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 7:42 pm

amother OP wrote:

But why doesn’t he at least nap a little in between the afternoon and 1 am? I wouldn’t mind putting him in later but why is he not taking naps?

because u are putting him to bed to early. create a nighttime routine - feed, burp, change diaper, sleep sack, noise machine, dark room, shema put down with paci to teach him what night is. they don't naturally know. During the day, make him nap in a room with light so that he knows it is still the daytime. Put him to sleep later, dont put him down in bed so early.
Look up the website whattoexpect and research wake windows to set a tentative schedule - not a real one, but tentative and flexible.

amother

↑ Pear

Mon, Jan 13 2025, 7:45 pm

amother OP wrote:

My baby is 6.5 weeks old. He naps up to two hours each nap, I thought that was regular . So he napped at 8 for two hours, 11 for an hour and a half, and he’ll probably want to sleep at 2 for 2 hours. And then after that he just doesn’t nap unless I hold him and doesn’t fall asleep for any stretches

He just is up, kvetches for paci when he’s not hungry

why are u putting him in to take a nap at 8? that is very early. try to delay each naptime, starting with the first one so that the long awake stretch is later - so he will be more tired when u put him down between 8-10.