I hate how my husband thinks it's normal. it doesn't happy daily but probably once a week or so. I hate how he threatens with it.
I dint like policing him but I wish it wouldn't be acceptable. Unfortunately too many fathers around me do it too.
My husband got potched growing up and he has incredible loving parents, and always said that it is a necessary tool that worked for him. (we discussed this before kids)
He still considers it a tool in his toolbox, but once we actually have our own kids with their unique personalities and needs, we both really try to use the methods and strategies this lazy parenting for anything else.
(admittedly we have both messed up in this area, but are constantly growing and improving as parents)