Rude shadchanim | Imamother

↑ Mollie

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 10:50 pm

BubbyBB wrote:

I would like to give a different perspective on last night as I was there. I am one of the shadchannim who attended. I came from a great distance to attend and I certainly was not paid. I and most of the women there last night give up hours of our own family time and of our own free time to help Klal Yisroel by redting shidduchim. You have no idea how time consuming this is. Every free minute including dinner time my phone pings or mother of singles or the singles themselves reach out. I feel that my job is to give chizzuk and also to redt shidduchim. It is in the Hands of the Ribbono Shel Olam when and who each person marries.

For someone who doesn't know the workings of the organization to lash out and criticize it as someone did was very painful to me when I read it. That organization was created to help with shidduchim. They have many events and programs that they run and they have been very successful but it is certainly not a money maker. Even last night's food for the event was sponsored by private people who wanted to help. Every member shadchan is extremely dedicated and is certainly not in it for the money.

Please don't criticize the shadchannim. No we are not perfect and sometimes we make mistakes but we redt shidduchim with our whole hearts l'shem shomayim. I challenge all the readers of this thread to jump in and get active with shidduchim themselves rather than criticize. We need more shadhchannim! Klal Yisroel has grown B"H and we need more people to get involved! Please become a shadchan and always be careful to always treat your singles and their parents with utmost sensitivity.

Respectfully, don’t be a martyr on our behalf. You probably should have stayed home.

CPenzias ↓

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 10:54 pm

BubbyBB wrote:

It's beautiful that you do all these things. It's not beautiful that the shadchanim got up and didn't when m even listen to the op's son. That is rude and disgusting. I'm sure it's a lot of work but if you're going to treat people that way you're not in the right line of work.

↑ CPenzias

Sat, Jan 04 2025, 10:56 pm

yolo81 wrote:

I am a shadchan and I do event for free all the time their exhausting I usally say hello we have met has any thing changed. but some
times I am exhausted and am
just ready to leave and I just don’t have it in me to talk to one more person after meeting 50
plus ppl. your son should not take it so hard. shidduchim are 100
from hashem

If shidduchim are 100% from Hashem (I agree with you) why bother with shadchanim?