Feeling guilty re morning

amother

↑ Hawthorn ↓

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 7:55 am

Molly Weasley wrote:

There's another bathroom available

That one is the not good one.
Bullies do that to their victims all the time. Trust me I was bullied as a kid. The adults couldn't see a difference between the balls guess who had to use the not good one? The less pretty doll my sister used to literally take it out of my hand and mom would say big deal there's another one right over there.
I could so see my sister sitting in the bathroom all morning just so I shouldn't be able to use it

imaima ↓

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 8:18 am

amother OP wrote:

Dd is 14. She got into an argument with a sibling over bathroom time this morning. There’s another bathroom down the hall ( just a nice no difference) but she refused to use it standing on ceremony. She missed her bus. Yes the other sibling was being difficult but she refused to use the other bathroom. I refused to drive her to school. I told her calmly that she knew there was another bathroom available and if she wanted to stand on ceremony and that why she missed her bus she ll have to walk. The walk to school is 15 mins abt. She was really mad at me. She kept coming over and asking me to drive her because it’s getting late. She still had plenty of time to make it without being late . I repeated what I said multiple time. She finally left really mad. Mom guilt. Now I’m feeling bad for her. I stand by my decision but I just hope it didn’t ruin her day..,

Don’t be guilty. You did the right thing

↑ imaima

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 8:31 am

amother Turquoise wrote:

This. Most people have a bathroom they prefer getting ready in.

Yes but if this option isn’t available, they use the other one so as not to be late

amother

↑ Apple

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 8:32 am

amother Hawthorn wrote:

That’s an oddly specific projection.

amother

↑ Hawthorn ↓

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 10:55 am

amother Apple wrote:

That’s an oddly specific projection.

Said her other daughter was being difficult. Which means she's probably not all that innocent.

amother

↑ Hawthorn

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 12:14 pm

amother Hawthorn wrote:

Said her other daughter was being difficult. Which means she's probably not all that innocent.

Op I am not saying you shouldn't have made your daughter walk. at the end of the day SHE MISSED THE BUS.
Just saying you should check if she's being bullied. I would tell your other daughter that she needs to use the other bathroom if it takes her longer than a certain amount of time.

↑ Movernshaker

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 5:13 pm

amother Apple wrote:

That’s an oddly specific projection.

Yes. Bullies know very well how to tease and make it look like the victim is magnifying the bullying so nobody else notices.