First time mom question

amother

Steel

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 7:57 am

Besides for securing bookshelves etc might be stating the obvious but make sure everything is childproof and secure. Keep doors closed with door knob covers for rooms like the bathroom. Make sure your cabinets have child safety locks etc. don't keep stools next to the counters.

Whatever you can minimize before he even gets to do anything dangerous.

amother

Calendula

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 8:07 am

amother Burntblack wrote:

A few points. First, reword what you are saying. Instead of no climbing on the table, say feet on the floor. Coaching it in positive terms is always better and gives the child a focus of what they should do. Saying no, especially in a loud voice is a great game and most children like playing it. Try to minimize this where possible. And the least attention you give to a new thing or behavior, the quicker he is likely to stop doing it. If every time he stands on the table, you shout no and pick him up and give him a speech about how dangerous it is, he's going to learn that this is something that gives him attention, so he will want to do it again. Simply putting him on the floor and saying feet on the floor, won't give him that attention.
At this age, redirecting is usually the easiest. Have a toy he likes handy and sit him down with it. Or move into a different room.
If he is a highly active child, I have had several of those. What I found helpful was having some things they could climb. I had a small climbing frame in the playroom and a mini trampoline. Obviously this is space dependent. But if they do have that energy, it has to go somewhere and it's best if it can be redirected positively.
And something important with all children of any age is to pick your battles. Is this something that really matters or is it something that's irritating? Trying to jump headfirst off the table is dangerous, but repeatedly throwing his bottle off the highchair is annoying but not dangerous.

I love this post. She makes nailed it. The one thing I'll add is that our brains, especially still developing toddler brains, don't process negative language. So when you say "don't climb", toddler will hear "climb". This explains why is important to use positive language such as "feet on the floor".

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 8:09 am

amother Steel wrote:

Thanks do you know of any child safety thing for those doorknobs that are more like levers ours arent round and he just figured out how to open the bathroom door. Im actually terrified hes going to figure out how to lock the door from the inside and we have no keys need to figure that out asap

amother

↑ OP

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 8:10 am

amother Calendula wrote:

Yes I really do like this advice already started talking like that this morning

↑ imaima

Wed, Jan 01 2025, 8:16 am

amother OP wrote:

Also put all detergents on the upper shelves.
There are things that can be put on doors so they don’t close completely.
Take them out as much as possible so they are active outside and don’t have much energy left for home.