Do you think his boss is rigid?!

↑ imaima

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 9:41 am

courage2change wrote:

His boss had another past manager who moved to this other town and he had a bad experience with this other guy so in his head he doesn’t want my husband to move even if the hours work! Banging head

I think his boss could’ve answered my husband more respectfully instead of saying “if you move you’re fired! Also my husband was out of a job for 10 months last year until this job finally fell into his hands. It’s good pay supposedly even though I told my husband for such crazy hours maybe he should be getting even more…. what do people think is a normal salary for such a job?

Maybe he should pay him double for the ladt 2 hours on friday. This way it won’t be worth it to keep the store open 😉

↑ courage2change ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 9:42 am

notshanarishona wrote:

A 5 year contract is meaningless, your husband can quit if the hours don’t work for him. Those hours wouldn’t work for 99% of frum people. Unless they are paying a fortune they are unlikely to find a competent replacement. He should play their game and let them try.

What’s considered a fortune? Just curious?

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 9:48 am

courage2change wrote:

We already saw house ps and I loved one but only problem is this!

You mentioned that your husband was out of work for 9 months before he found this job. I’m just curious, why do you believe you could afford a new house if he were to lose this job?

↑ courage2change ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 9:52 am

That’s the point. He was at a job for 6 years straight but had to leave for various reasons. We didn’t realize the job market was so tough! The job he did had nothing to do with managing it was teaching… We do have savings from over the years…

Leahh

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 9:53 am

courage2change wrote:

Also he had such a hard time finding someone to do such a job that a doubt he’ll want to drop my husband that quickly.

He probably had a hard time for the Friday hours. Which is exactly what your husband is no longer giving him.
I'm sorry, op, but your husband agreed to work those hours. If his circumstances changes and he's unable to, it's well within his boss's right to terminate his employment. Not being able to work until a half hour to shabbos likely no longer sets your husband apart from many other candidates.

↑ lamplighter ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 9:55 am

courage2change wrote:

Problem is we can’t wait 5 years with 3 kids in a two bedroom. What’s if I get pregnant? So solution can be to rent a bigger apartment for more money…

But you knew this 8 months ago when he agreed to the job.

↑ courage2change ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 9:56 am

Not true. He works till 12 am on Thursday nights and till 8 pm on Tuesday and Wednesday night. Monday is an off day only when not yom tov but Sunday till 7 pm. Before yom tov he has to be in store a whole week till late! My husband is sacrificing more than just Friday..

↑ lamplighter ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 9:58 am

Not wise to buy a house without reliable employment or income.
The problem was looking at houses to buy that you can only live in if your DH leaves his job.

↑ courage2change ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 9:58 am

On Tuesday Wednesday and Thursday he does get an hour break to come home and help me… Alrhough in the winter there’s sometimes not enough hours in the week to take a break so he needs to stay full time.

↑ courage2change ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 9:59 am

lamplighter wrote:

Not wise to buy a house without reliable employment or income.
The problem was looking at houses to buy that you can only live in if your DH leaves his job.

We thought his boss would accommodate…

↑ lamplighter ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:00 am

courage2change wrote:

Accountants have crazy hours during tax season. Shaitel machers have crazy hours before Yom tov.
It is normal to have crazy hours during busy season.
The question is if your DH wants to work these hours or get a different job, not whether these are reasonable hours.
These are hours of his job that he agreed to.

↑ lamplighter ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:02 am

courage2change wrote:

We thought his boss would accommodate…

I hear this. That's an assumption.
It would be nice of him to but he isn't rigid for not being willing to as upsetting and frustrating as it is.

↑ courage2change ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:02 am

lamplighter wrote:

But you knew this 8 months ago when he agreed to the job.

No we didn’t. I thought his boss would be more flexible. The contract didn’t say we can’t move…

↑ courage2change ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:03 am

If the job is so hard to cover he should try to at least accommodate my husband. I doubt he’ll find someone for these hours..

↑ courage2change ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:04 am

lamplighter wrote:

Is hours are crazy all year long not just before yom tov!

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:19 am

courage2change wrote:

No we didn’t. I thought his boss would be more flexible. The contract didn’t say we can’t move…

Your husband did agree not to move, because moving would mean he can't do the job.

It's implicit in the contract

imanotmommy ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:23 am

courage2change wrote:

No we didn’t. I thought his boss would be more flexible. The contract didn’t say we can’t move…

I'm confused. Is he literally saying "I will fire you if you move" or "I will fire you if you can't do the hours that you agreed to"?
You're making it sound unreasonable if he's controlling where you live. But is he really, or he's just insisting on the hours that were set? Meaning, if you'd move but spend every Shabbos in your old neighborhood, or just your husband would, would your husband be fired? I'm not saying that's realistic, just that if he'd still be fired in that case, then that's called being rigid.

wabcs ↓

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:25 am

This is a difficult situation. The boss is probably also worried that your husband will have a hard time doing all these difficult hours (not only late Friday) once he moves. In this scenario I would probably buy the house and rent it out. I wouldn't want you to lose a house you love and that you can afford, but I don't think it makes sense to move and possibly have your husband lose his job. This way you can buy yourself some time while your husband can look around for another job. If you buy the house now the boss may also realize you are serious about moving and may consider being more flexible if he doesn't want to lose your husband. Many people buy and rent until they can move in. If this is staten island there are very few houses available to rent there so you should be able to rent it out.

Olive

Tue, Dec 31 2024, 10:25 am

lamplighter wrote:

I hear this. That's an assumption.
It would be nice of him to but he isn't rigid for not being willing to as upsetting and frustrating as it is.

Exactly this.

You're better off finding a new job before planning the move because you don't want to buy a home & then be unemployed.

There is nothing wrong with his current work requirements. It just doesn't work with your plans to move. I don't see anyone in the wrong here.