How to tell tutor I'm not paying for the Chanukah party

↑ icedcoffee

Sun, Dec 29 2024, 1:51 pm

amother Viola wrote:

I work as a tutor in a school, taking kids out from class for one-on-one. This week a lot of the kids didn’t want to come because they were doing fun Chanukah things. What am I supposed to do, force them to come learn while all their classmates are doing a project?

I don’t know exactly how the school bills for the tutoring.

This is really not the same at all

↑ mommy3b2c

Sun, Dec 29 2024, 1:54 pm

notshanarishona wrote:

For sure the tutor made a poor unprofessional choice. If I personally would make an issue/ risk ruining a relationship over it would depend on the other dynamics I mentioned as to how big of a deal it was to me.

I’m not saying I wouldn’t pay. I probably would to keep the relationship positive but I would be very clear that it’s unacceptable to me and that I would not pay if it happens again . What I don’t understand is all the posters acting like op is in the wrong . Based on her op, she has zero obligation to pay assuming she’s telling the truth . And why would I assume she’s lying?

↑ Raizle

Sun, Dec 29 2024, 2:23 pm

amother OP wrote:

So first of all, she billed us for the month and did in fact charge us for the session. None of us mothers are paying but one of the other mothers took it upon herself to nicely explain why and our disappointment. We have another tutor lined up if she has a problem with our not paying.

A couple important points
1 There was zero learning at the session
2 This is intense studying for older kids with a limited amount of sessions. We didn't need her to become our kids' pal or confidant or whatever. It isn't therapy...

The tutor is young and I think she thought this was okay and normal. She is bright, but clearly lacks common sense. Thanks all who answered.

What was her response?

amother

↑ Jetblack

Sun, Dec 29 2024, 2:43 pm

amother OP wrote:

Wow that is really poor judgment on the tutor's part. I'd agree with your stance. If you can easily get an equivalent tutor as replacement then why not?

I am a former tutor but for elementary age students, and I worked with them during class time, multiple times a week for the whole year. Parents did not pay for the sessions. Even with that dynamic I would not have a session where no learning took place.

PS she wasted the girls time, that's a strike against her as well.