The hidden luxuries we spend on

amother

↑ Bellflower

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 7:22 pm

shabbatiscoming wrote:

How is any dentist visit a luxury? I would say that its something needed. No?
Hidden LARGE expenses is very different than luxuries. A dentist visit is NOT a luxury.

This. Dental work is not a luxury. People sometimes have to postpone dental work due to the cost which is very sad but that doesn't make dental work a luxury
As someone else said, spending money on anything other than rice and beans and two outfits per person from the thrift shop doesn't make it a luxury!

amother

Babyblue

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 7:42 pm

This site is ridiculous.

Dental work is not a luxury.

Therapy for survival is not a luxury.

Car repairs are not a luxury

amother

Tuberose

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 7:49 pm

amother Babyblue wrote:

This site is ridiculous.

Dental work is not a luxury.

Therapy for survival is not a luxury.

Car repairs are not a luxury

Thank you! Smh

And yes I am deep in debt, but those are NOT luxuries. The scarcity mindset on this website is sometimes a bit much.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 8:00 pm

So I’m not usually one of those who thinks everything is a luxury. But something about laying down over 2k just for myself? Like I was thinking about my sis in laws who have blackened teeth because they likely can’t afford the expense… and here I am just casually doing it.
I grew up only having dental work done through Medicaid. Which means the bare minimum. Like I have a 20 yr old root canal that never got a crown and another one that had to be pulled because the temporary crown they put in kept coming off so eventually the tooth broke. My father never wanted to pay for an implant and now the gap is too closed.
So for me, just walking in getting top notch dental work, putting down 2k and walking out feels very luxurious.
And it’s not like I don’t have other luxuries in my life.

amother

Pewter

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 8:05 pm

My therapist made $30,000 from me this year.
Then we have my husbands therapist, couples counseling that we just started plus psychiatrists.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 8:23 pm

Wow I wasn’t expecting these responses! Thought I’d get shot down for bragging or something.
Happens to be I stopped therapy years ago because I couldn’t stomach putting down so much money just to sit on a couch and talk to someone. It felt weird.
Why do I feel this way?

amother

Purple

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 8:38 pm

amother OP wrote:

Obviously you don't need therapy that badly. Not everyone needs therapy though in the frum world it appears that way....

amother

↑ Dodgerblue ↓

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 8:52 pm

Imateacher wrote:

How much is your therapy weekly?

Its obviously not one session a week. Its 2 different therapist and its a total of 3 sessions per week. Yeah, life is hectic and I work full time...

amother

↑ Wandflower

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 8:56 pm

amother Aubergine wrote:

IVF you consider a luxury????!!!
Surprised

My health insurance clearly thinks so.

amother

Diamond

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 9:11 pm

My hidden luxuries include cleaning help and takeout. Why? Because I'm on chemo and barely hanging on. I also work full time and am my kids primary caretaker. So what people don't see is that without these types of luxuries, we literally wouldn't have food on the table or a semi-clean home because I'm exhausted and sick. Normalcy for my kids and myself is everything now so yes, I'll splurge when others would say it's foolish.

amother

↑ Dodgerblue

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 10:23 pm

amother Pewter wrote:

My therapist made $30,000 from me this year.
Then we have my husbands therapist, couples counseling that we just started plus psychiatrists.

I can relate to this. "One" of my therapist gets over 36k from my sessions per year. And I can't survive without it so there is no thought of cutting any of those sessions.

I do see massive changes and it is worth every dollar. So no complains ever from my side of town on this expense. But therapy is a huge expense.

Beautiful

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 11:07 pm

Just to say, filling cavities are not a luxury. Tooth infections can be dangerous and infection the brain if not treated properly.

amother

Seablue

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 11:16 pm

Funny I thought the uber was the hidden luxury. For me that would be the luxury (but I drive maybe you are chassidish and don’t so it’s not a luxury) .

amother

↑ OP ↓

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 11:32 pm

Beautiful wrote:

Just to say, filling cavities are not a luxury. Tooth infections can be dangerous and infection the brain if not treated properly.

I’ve had these cavities for 10+ years… finally decided to just take care of it. Especially since one was becoming very obvious. Hence the cosmetic part.

amother

↑ OP

Wed, Dec 25 2024, 11:33 pm

amother Seablue wrote:

Funny I thought the uber was the hidden luxury. For me that would be the luxury (but I drive maybe you are chassidish and don’t so it’s not a luxury) .

Right I don’t drive. But I could’ve taken public transportation so yeah that’s a hidden luxury as well.

amother

Maroon

Thu, Dec 26 2024, 10:18 am

amother OP wrote:

I’ve had these cavities for 10+ years… finally decided to just take care of it. Especially since one was becoming very obvious. Hence the cosmetic part.

Just putting it out there for others - this is a very bad idea. You are very lucky none turned into a root canal or hot tooth.

Happy for you that u got them taken care of 😃

amother

Natural

Thu, Dec 26 2024, 10:34 am

I'm missing a tooth an have a hole there for a few years already. It cost a few thousands to put in an implant.
Is that a luxury or a necessity?
I did without for a few years! What

Not so simple!

amother

Waterlily

Thu, Dec 26 2024, 10:35 am

Therapy. Meds not covered by insurance. Psychiatrists. If I wouldn’t have to pay them, I would be very very rich by now.
Meanwhile I am in so much debt but I can’t give this up.