9 year old DS school resistance

amother

Yesterday at 5:05 pm

My 9 year old DS has been giving us a hard time about going to school recently. Not every day but it's becoming a pattern.
And then he won't get dressed and he'll miss his carpool, and then I'll have to bring him to school, late, after I bring my 6 year old dd.

He doesn't have a lot to say about it. Just "he doesn't want to go", "he hates school" etc...
He likes his teachers, he has friends B"H, he's not having a hard time with the material B"H.

I spoke to his Rebbe on thursday and his Rebbe spoke to him. Basically he told Rebbe that school is just too long. (8:30-4:00).
Rebbe suggested I bring him late once a week or pick him up early once a week and that might motivate him to go nicely the rest of the week.

I'm not sure I love that idea, although I appreciate very much the flexibility that he offered me.

I'm just not sure it's the best thing for my son.

Basically, my son is very much in his own head. He loves learning the things he's interested in - police stuff, police vehicles, countries around the world. My feeling is that he's in his own head, and he spends the whole day at school waiting to get home so he could do the things he's interested in.

So I'm not sure that an extra hour home once a week is the right solution.

I hope wise women here will be able to give me ideas.

Thank you

naomi2

Yesterday at 6:48 pm

I think the rebbe has a good idea. I gave my son days off if he asked in advance, never if he asked in the morning. Sometimes it was even once a month. If your kid is refusing to go to school, something is not working for him.

amother

Cream

Yesterday at 10:45 pm

Is he academically advanced? It is very hard to be bored all day, especially for children who like learning. I used to read under my desk in class (a bit older) when I really couldn't handle it.
If that is the issue the Rebbi's suggestion could work. Take him out of his usual environment and give the kid a chance to become an expert in his area of interest. I dont love the idea of making him different, so I might first providing intellectual stimulation in addition to school. However I recognize that that will not make as much of a difference.