Is this normal? | Imamother

amother

OP ↓

Yesterday at 5:42 pm

My kids come home from school so angry and upset every single day. They are young elementary and one has a very hard time in school due to ADHD.
I am just so at a loss. They are not like this over the weekend or breaks. It makes me want to homeschool.

mha3484

Yesterday at 5:44 pm

Some kids really hold in a lot at school and when they get home they let it all out. Its definitly in the range of normal.

Also do they take the bus home? I find the boys buses are really overstimulating and hefker and a lot of boys have a hard time with it.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 5:45 pm

mha3484 wrote:

No. We don't have bussing where we live. It just ruins our home environment. Is there anything I can do to help them regulate when they get home?

amother

NeonPurple

Yesterday at 5:49 pm

Feed them right away.

Also make a sensory corner, bean bags, soft lights, sensory toys, soft music, hammock type swings from the ceiling if you can, and have them relax there as soon as they come home.

A warm bath right away might also help them unwind.

amother

Birch

Yesterday at 5:50 pm

Let them have some time to chill.
I know it’s a rush of dinner homework and bedtime but give them the time.

It’s really hard long hours and sitting in a desk it’s hard…

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 5:52 pm

amother NeonPurple wrote:

I do make sure they eat immediately.
We also have a coloring/drawing space that they love. Today my ADHD child was just getting angry at everything including his drawings though. I can do music. That might help them. I don't have space for a hang out space with bean bags or swings in my home though. We have a very small house.
I get home from work at the same time and I am overstimulated and need to get dinner made. Dh doesn't come home for a couple more hours so everything is on me.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 5:53 pm

mummiedearest wrote:

Can you homeschool, or is it just a fantasy? If you can swing it and dh is on board, I see no reason not to.

It's a fantasy I guess. Dh would never be on board. I wish.

amother

↑ OP ↓

Yesterday at 5:54 pm

amother Birch wrote:

Let them have some time to chill.
I know it’s a rush of dinner homework and bedtime but give them the time.

It’s really hard long hours and sitting in a desk it’s hard…

I think the transition to winter has been hard because usually they would go outside to play immediately when coming home. Now they can't get out all their energy.

amother

Nemesia

Yesterday at 5:57 pm

Yes,mine complains as well! When on break, behaves so nicely and when back to school always seems upset. Makes me want to homeschool too! I think schools are just not interested enough. They need to upgrade the way they teach, kids are getting bored by the day.

amother

Puce

Yesterday at 9:04 pm

amother OP wrote:

I think the transition to winter has been hard because usually they would go outside to play immediately when coming home. Now they can't get out all their energy.

Let them bundle up and play outside after eating something if you can. Even though it is cold it still feels good to move in fresh air or play I'm the snow.

amother

Jetblack

Yesterday at 9:35 pm

I know not everyone does videos
But ADHD kids need time to decompress with something that relaxes the mind like watching a video for even 30 minutes.

amother

↑ OP

Yesterday at 9:44 pm

amother Jetblack wrote:

I know not everyone does videos
But ADHD kids need time to decompress with something that relaxes the mind like watching a video for even 30 minutes.

Watching videos for my kids is terrible. They are even worse behaved. I do put on stories frequently. I should start making it a routine. Thank you

amother

Camellia

Yesterday at 9:45 pm

My ds in 6th grade comes home starving!!! He's hangry!
He leaves the house at 7am and gets home at 5:30
It's a long day and he's really hungry!!!