No forum for parents of OTD adult no longer at home kids.

amother

OP ↓

Sat, Nov 30 2024, 5:26 pm

I was about to start a thread but realised I had no section to post it in

The one for otd and rebellious teenagers isn't really relevant at this point. The dynamics change once they are adults and no longer at home. I would expect the feedback to be quite different too and wouldn't want to hear from parents who are still in that earlier phase.
Please mods could you consider a more relevant section?

Unless I just can't find it and it exists. Please let me know

amother

Topaz ↓

Sat, Nov 30 2024, 6:30 pm

I would love to see a new section as well. OP if you are part of the kesher nafshi group, there are whatsapp groups you can go on that talk about these things. There is a halacha chat as well where u can ask rabbis your shealos.

amother

↑ Topaz ↓

Sat, Nov 30 2024, 6:50 pm

Have you been to a kesher nafshi Shabbaton? You would have to do that first to be joined into the group, simply because it is a mehalach they want you to learn first.

singleagain ↓

Sat, Nov 30 2024, 6:55 pm

Mods can't create boards. That falls under Yael's domaine. I believe Yael usually wants about 20 people interested before creating a group, I'll report this thread to bring it to her attention, and I'm the meantime keep track of the votes and comments.

amother

Lemon ↓

Sat, Nov 30 2024, 7:32 pm

The otd teenage group gets very little posts. I think it would be a shame to separate teen/adult. We can just change the name to otd teens and adults. Any questions posted there is usually relevant to any age(if not today, then in a few years! Crying

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amother

↑ Lemon

Sat, Nov 30 2024, 7:35 pm

amother Purple wrote:

Maybe a private forum for parents of adult children to discuss multiple issues?

I think it would be helpful to have a section relevant to adult children only (but not necessarily including otd ones who really have different issues)

amother

↑ OP ↓

Sat, Nov 30 2024, 8:06 pm

singleagain wrote:

I probably shouldn't have given an option for no because it's not really relevant if they don't think we need it if we have enough people who are interested

amother

↑ OP ↓

Sat, Nov 30 2024, 8:10 pm

amother Lemon wrote:

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I think it's good for parents of adult otd kid to weigh in on the teenage topics for the mom's of OTD kids sake to be able to get advice from the experienced but I personally would prefer hearing from people with more experience. I find that parents who are just starting out on this difficult journey are just at a different place and mindset.

amother

↑ Topaz

Sat, Nov 30 2024, 8:42 pm

amother OP wrote:

Good point! I have both, teenage and adult, so I unfortunately have alot of experience!

amother

Currant

Sun, Dec 01 2024, 10:51 am

The issue is when forums get overly specific, they stop getting used after initially being formed. It might work well for a WhatsApp group but doesn't work well on this site.

If the teens group is already not so active, it's probably not wise to start another one.

↑ singleagain

Sun, Dec 01 2024, 10:58 am

amother Currant wrote:

The reason people don't post in private groups is bc "no one posts there" maybe if people started utilizing the groups there would be more traffic...

I don't know how other people use this site. But I look in the homepage at the recent topics and don't usually pay attention to what forum something is in. If it's in a private group that I'm part of it will pop up in my homepage. I'm not specifically going to look in the individual forums.

Also I notify certain private forums I'm part of... Unfortunately I can't always help, but if I can I try to post there.

amother

Hosta

Sun, Dec 01 2024, 12:02 pm

amother OP wrote:

OP, I think this is a good idea. I’d join. Th dynamics are just different at this stage…

amother

↑ OP ↓

Sun, Dec 01 2024, 1:01 pm

singleagain wrote:

I'm the same. I don't check which forum a post is in but I do check when I go to start a new post. I'm not in the otd teenage one so I can't post there anyway

Yael

Yesterday at 2:48 pm

The OTD children group was always intended to include adult children as well. The teens+ meant it included adult children.
I edited the forum title to be more clear.