Davening in Bingo | Imamother

amother

Lavender

Today at 8:04 am

I hope HaShem answers her tefillos. I wish I was so preoccupied with davening. Good for her. Not sure why you are even posting about this.

amother

↑ Melon ↓

Today at 8:08 am

amother Lavender wrote:

I hope HaShem answers her tefillos. I wish I was so preoccupied with davening. Good for her. Not sure why you are even posting about this.

It's to make an awareness not to daven in a Bingo aisle.
If she was standing with her face to the produce and just standing without moving, no one would even notice. It would be like she was saying tehillim or something like that. It's probably because she was shaking back and forth that got her noticed. And therein lies the issue.

amother

Amethyst ↓

Today at 8:08 am

amother Mayflower wrote:

We always learned that a woman should not daven in public where there are men around. I’m sure she had a good reason for doing so.

Never heard this ever.

I mean, yeah, its certainly a better mehalch to not be out there, thats obvious, but not allowed?

I cant believe anyone would be told to miss mincha because men will see them davening.

Most poskim (litvish, dont know about chassidim) hold women need to daven mincha. Its very bidieved to skip despite being very common.

With early shkiah, it's very hard!!

Bnei Berak 10 ↓

Today at 8:09 am

Elfrida wrote:

I think it's the chutz l'aretz version of Osher Ad. The logos are too similar for it to be coincidence.

Personally, I'd have found a corner, rather than in the middle of the aisle, but nothing wrong with it in principle.

Correct, over here it's Osher Ad and ever there it's Bingo.
The founders of Osher Ad are chassidei Gur AFAIK.

amother

↑ Amethyst ↓

Today at 8:11 am

amother Melon wrote:

Don't make this something that it's not. There's a reason that men have a mechitza separating them from the women while davening. No one in their right mind object to women davening. It's not objectifying anyone and everyone needs a connection to Hashem. The entire thing was the physical location of the woman's choice of davening in public where everyone can see her.

The mechitzah is so men arent distracted while THE MEN are davening.

Not because they cant see a women daven!!

Why would you make that leap.

amother

↑ Melon ↓

Today at 8:11 am

Bnei Berak 10 wrote:

Correct, over here it's Osher Ad and ever there it's Bingo.
The founders of Osher Ad are chassidei Gur AFAIK.

If you're in Bnei Brak, I'm wondering what your opinion is of finding a woman visibly davening shmone esrei in middle of an aisle and shaking back and forth? Do you think that it's something that a woman should do in public like that?

amother

↑ Amethyst

Today at 8:13 am

amother Melon wrote:

Where did op say she was shuckling tons.

Just that she was davening.

Most ladies I know barely shuckle.

amother

↑ Melon

Today at 8:15 am

amother Amethyst wrote:

Where did op say she was shuckling tons.

Just that she was davening.

Most ladies I know barely shuckle.

It's the ones that shuckle who are the ones that I am talking about at least. And some shuckle very very vigorously.

↑ Bnei Berak 10 ↓

Today at 8:16 am

OP, in chareidi areas it's totally accepted to have minyanim in the grocery store (they announce it in the loudspeaker)
Not common to see a frum lady davening there but it can happen.

NechaMom

Today at 8:18 am

amother OP wrote:

Saw a woman I know davening shmoneh esrei in one of the aisles. Must've been the last few minutes to daven Mincha. Struck me as odd. What do you think if you see someone doing this? Is it the right thing to do? Am I just being judgy?

I would just tell her "remember yaala veyavo" and go on with my day.
I'd also be impressed.
I don't do well with davening in public so I wouldn't do it but if someone else did, I'd think good for her.

amother

↑ Candycane

Today at 8:20 am

Op why did you feel the need to mention the specific store? You could have just said it was in a supermarket. I really hope the woman isn’t on imamother because imagine how hurtful it would be to see this thread.

leah233

Today at 8:21 am

Had it been a store primarily catering to Muslims and it would have been a Muslim woman praying how would you feel?

↑ Bnei Berak 10 ↓

Today at 8:27 am

amother Melon wrote:

IMHO it's better to find a corner somewhere. Aisles aren't ideal.
That said I am NOT going to go over to that woman and give her mussar nor will I bunch my lips and say "Hashem yerachem" under my breath or something like that to show my disapproval.
It's not my job. I like to mind my own business.

↑ Bnei Berak 10 ↓

Today at 8:42 am

amother Melon wrote:

By the way there are plenty of nonreligious who shop at Osher Ad in Bnei Brak (good location) so the atmosphere is relaxed.
Around 20 and some years ago chareidi supermarkets had large blue sheets that were available to women at the entrance who wore very little so to say. I haven't seen those sheets *in ages*.
Haven't seen an argument or upheaval EVER over women's dress or modesty. Only people who argue about their place in the queue or complaining over the cashier's pace.

amother

Grape

Today at 8:43 am

If she was davening in a way that I couldn't shop in the aisle (because it's prohibited to walk in front of someone who is davening Shemone Esrei) I'd be annoyed. But if she was davening at the end of the aisle, facing the wall, I'd think that's great. Tavo aleha bracha!

Ihatepotatoes

Today at 8:59 am

amother Green wrote:

Okay I literally thought you meant she was davening in the middle of a Bingo game. LOL

I live OOT so didn’t chap that you meant the store lol.

Please hashem make the next number 34, please....

Raisin

Today at 9:17 am

Not familier with bingo but most supermarkets I have been in don't really have quiet corners. There are just food shelves everywhere. Why would the milk or produce section be any better?

As long as she is facing a wall so you don't have to walk in front of her I think its fine.

Some women are makpid to daven mincha, to think this is showing off is ridiculous. Maybe you think a woman wearing tznius clothes is showing off?

amother

↑ Brass ↓

Today at 9:24 am

Amother green, I would feel the same if she chose to daven in the middle of a bingo game, but in that case most of the people would be seated and she would be less likely to be in anyone's way except the person who walks over to check people's boards if they call Bingo.

amother

Anemone ↓

Today at 9:26 am

ddmom wrote:

I would be super impressed that this lady doesn't care what other people will think so she can daven before shkia! We need more of those ladies!
(Although not the ideal place to daven, I understand that it can happen!)

Same!!!!

I happen to find a minyan much more intrusive but they don’t get the judgment. I really don’t get it though…. I’m in middle of minding my business and all of a sudden I’m talking during Kaddish. How is it allowed?