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amother
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 Today at 3:53 pm
I have a lady that comes to me twice weekly
I share her with a friend and my friend said she gave her a gift on thanksgiving
now I am wondering is it the normal thing to do?
any ideas what to get? (Obviously want to spend the least possible)
and I missed thanksgiving when should I give it ? Chanukah? x-mas?
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amother
Topaz
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Today at 3:58 pm
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I give chanuka time and say it’s for the holidays. I give cash (salary she’d make in half to a full week working at my house)
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chocolate moose
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Today at 3:59 pm
a neughbor used to give her mekusharim (mail lady, etc) little gifts for each holiday. so I copied her. chcolates on valentines day, socks on thanksgiving etc.
but you do you. an end of the year bonus is really sufficient.
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Elfrida
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Today at 4:29 pm
| amother OP wrote: |
and I missed thanksgiving when should I give it ? Chanukah? x-mas? |
They're the same date this year, so that would be a perfect time for gifts.
On the other hand, I've seen people here say they davka avoid giving gifts on Xmas, so if you follow that, maybe New Year would be a better time.
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amother
Darkblue
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Today at 4:55 pm
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Many Poskim hold you may not give gifts in context of Xmas
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amother
Chicory
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Today at 4:59 pm
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Sounds nice but I spend money I don't have to pay her and I just don't have money for extras
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effess
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Today at 5:04 pm
I give for new years.
I give her a crisp $100 bill with a nice chocolate
For those giving for Xmas or valentines, you might consider asking if it’s permitted. They are x-tian holidays and might be forbidden to acknowledge it in a way of a gift.
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amother
Pistachio
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Today at 6:30 pm
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Ask when her birthday is and give then
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amother
DarkCyan
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Today at 6:33 pm
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I write card in her language wishing her happy and healthy new year. And thanking her for all she does. She comes to me 3x per week. I give equivalent of one time.
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kenz
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Today at 6:36 pm
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I give a little extra here and there when I feel she deserves extra for hard work. I don’t specifically give for any non-Jewish holiday because we hold it’s not allowed. Bus drivers and therapists who are not Jewish I give Chanukah time anyway. If it coincides with xmas we make sure it’s either 3 days before or after when we give.
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amother
Gladiolus
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Today at 7:55 pm
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I give Chanukah. I tell her it’s our Jewish holiday and how much I appreciate her help the whole year. I also try to give a couple gifts for her kids
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