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amother

Today at 3:53 pm

I have a lady that comes to me twice weekly
I share her with a friend and my friend said she gave her a gift on thanksgiving
now I am wondering is it the normal thing to do?
any ideas what to get? (Obviously want to spend the least possible)
and I missed thanksgiving when should I give it ? Chanukah? x-mas?

amother

Topaz

Today at 3:58 pm

I give chanuka time and say it’s for the holidays. I give cash (salary she’d make in half to a full week working at my house)

chocolate moose

Today at 3:59 pm

a neughbor used to give her mekusharim (mail lady, etc) little gifts for each holiday. so I copied her. chcolates on valentines day, socks on thanksgiving etc.

but you do you. an end of the year bonus is really sufficient.

Elfrida

Today at 4:29 pm

amother OP wrote:

and I missed thanksgiving when should I give it ? Chanukah? x-mas?

They're the same date this year, so that would be a perfect time for gifts.

On the other hand, I've seen people here say they davka avoid giving gifts on Xmas, so if you follow that, maybe New Year would be a better time.

amother

Darkblue

Today at 4:55 pm

Many Poskim hold you may not give gifts in context of Xmas

amother

Chicory

Today at 4:59 pm

Sounds nice but I spend money I don't have to pay her and I just don't have money for extras

effess

Today at 5:04 pm

I give for new years.
I give her a crisp $100 bill with a nice chocolate

For those giving for Xmas or valentines, you might consider asking if it’s permitted. They are x-tian holidays and might be forbidden to acknowledge it in a way of a gift.

amother

Pistachio

Today at 6:30 pm

Ask when her birthday is and give then

amother

DarkCyan

Today at 6:33 pm

I write card in her language wishing her happy and healthy new year. And thanking her for all she does. She comes to me 3x per week. I give equivalent of one time.

kenz

Today at 6:36 pm

I give a little extra here and there when I feel she deserves extra for hard work. I don’t specifically give for any non-Jewish holiday because we hold it’s not allowed. Bus drivers and therapists who are not Jewish I give Chanukah time anyway. If it coincides with xmas we make sure it’s either 3 days before or after when we give.

amother

Gladiolus

Today at 7:55 pm

I give Chanukah. I tell her it’s our Jewish holiday and how much I appreciate her help the whole year. I also try to give a couple gifts for her kids

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