To my child’s teacher

BH Yom Yom

Today at 9:47 am

OP, firstly - refuah sheleimah to you with no more agmas nefesh! I’m so sorry for what you’re dealing with.

Secondly - I’m beyond appalled at the sheer nastiness of that teacher. There is absolutely no excuse for that type of behavior. Please make sure the board of directors/HR department/school’s Rav are aware of this. The woman sounds like an abusive nutcase. I am glad to hear that overall the school is doing a good job, but this type of rotten behavior from a teacher can undermine any frum school’s attempts to give over our mesorah.

Hatzlocha rabbah and I hope you are off the ventilator soon and have a full refuah b’karov. Your DD is lucky to have you!

thatworn

Today at 10:47 am

amother OP wrote:

It’s unfortunately very real.
I changed the wording and a few lines so it wasn’t obvious what school this is and my daughters details of her adhd/ learning disability, but basically the teacher decided my daughter has spent all year looking for excuses and that this is just another convenient excuse that she is trying .
The teacher also believes adhd is because she isn’t disciplined.
I am tempted to ask about taking her out. I can’t imagine the frustration of dealing with a teacher who thinks a mother being not able to breathe snd and possibly end of life is just being used an excuse.
(My daughter is medicated but by last period of day it can start to wear off but regardless she is not a behavioral kid at all, just a little impulsive , executive functioning challenges, etc. ).

OP, forget your daughter's diagnoses for a bit. Even without a diagnosis, even if the teacher has some odd thought that your daughter has spent all year looking for excuses, even if your daughter were the most obnoxious, spoilt brat on the face of the universe (which she is NOT), if her mother is on a ventilator and possibly at end of life (beH til 120), then let every single assignment slide, let her have school as her safe haven and give her love, rather than abuse. This "teacher" needs to be ousted, pronto. The school needs to take your daughter's needs into account, so that she can stay as a functional pre teen and continue growing into a functional adult. The needs are not academic at present, they are purely emotional, and the school must deal with that. Is there someone in yor family or community who can advocate for her?