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amother
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 Tue, Nov 26 2024, 10:23 pm
I sent in a note that I had been in the hospital and am critically ill. My daughter did her report but just wasn’t able to print it because she slept at a friend so my husband could be with me. I thought somehow their would be room for rachamim and not failing her despite the no excuses rules for being late. She emailed it in. She tried . And now she is miserable and angry. Why was it so important to make an example out of her? Why is a 6th grader with limited computer access being penalized because at the last minute we were unavailable.
I was a teacher, this is not the way to act, especially when a parent is open to you that life is upside down.
I am fuming.
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 10:27 pm
That is completely unacceptable and definitely warrants a call to the principal!
The fact that the report had to be typed in and of itself is ridiculous.
But to know a parent t is unwell and penalize a kid for not having the hard copy!? The poor girls world is already spinning around her. Be there for her! Not against her!
Teachers like that should never be allowed back in the classroom!
Eta refuah shelaima OP. I was so fuming at the teacher I forgot to say it.
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 10:29 pm
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(((hugs))) are you sure the teacher got the note? Def call in!
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 10:31 pm
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Call the principal this is not acceptable and she should be accommodated at this hard time.
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 10:54 pm
| amother Ginger wrote: | | (((hugs))) are you sure the teacher got the note? Def call in! |
I emailed it to her and got a response.
(Cut out w few identifying sentences but essentially this was her email ).
Your daughter knew that the requirement was to hand in her report printed and not have her parents sending it out for her. She is in 6th grade and shouldn’t be dependent on you for her homework. I understand typing does take minimal supervision on your end but it’s her responsibility.
Emailing is a slippery slope and can even lead to parents doing the work for the kids.
Additionally it was assigned on x date 2 weeks ago. The girls were encouraged to hand it in early any time this week. I don’t see why your daughter procrastinating should have excused her. It should have been near completed way before 3 days before due date.
I am sorry to hear that you’re sick but that doesn’t exempt your child from fulfilling her responsibilities and taking it seriously.
If you let her use your medical illness as a crutch, she will make it through middle school not learning and fail high school. Is that where your priorities are? Life doesn’t stop because of illness, she may think that because she gets spoiled from Chai lifeline, Bikkur cholim that she can get whatever she desires and that’s not good for her. She was testing me and now will learn that rules still apply to her. I truly care about your daughters success and am giving her the 0 because she earned it by not handing in her report on time.
Wishing you a refuah Shlayma and please reconsider if you should be coddling your kids like this.
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 10:55 pm
| amother OP wrote: | I emailed it to her and got a response.
(Cut out w few identifying sentences but essentially this was her email ).
Your daughter knew that the requirement was to hand in her report printed and not have her parents sending it out for her. She is in 6th grade and shouldn’t be dependent on you for her homework. I understand typing does take minimal supervision on your end but it’s her responsibility.
Emailing is a slippery slope and can even lead to parents doing the work for the kids.
Additionally it was assigned on x date 2 weeks ago. The girls were encouraged to hand it in early any time this week. I don’t see why your daughter procrastinating should have excused her. It should have been near completed way before 3 days before due date.
I am sorry to hear that you’re sick but that doesn’t exempt your child from fulfilling her responsibilities and taking it seriously.
If you let her use your medical illness as a crutch, she will make it through middle school not learning and fail high school. Is that where your priorities are? Life doesn’t stop because of illness, she may think that because she gets spoiled from Chai lifeline, Bikkur cholim that she can get whatever she desires and that’s not good for her. She was testing me and now will learn that rules still apply to her. I truly care about your daughters success and am giving her the 0 because she earned it by not handing in her report on time.
Wishing you a refuah Shlayma and please reconsider if you should be coddling your kids like this. |
The cruelty here is insane. I’d forward this to the principal and call to discuss it.
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 10:57 pm
| amother Glitter wrote: | | Call the principal this is not acceptable and she should be accommodated at this hard time. |
I honestly can’t even talk now, still using the ventilator. But I can definitely send an email to principal.
The principal has been so nice and kind, exempting my daughter from homework with just a text from us, letting my daughter miss classes to help in the office and get some tlc with her and social worker, etc. she has definitely been nice and caring. This is actually the first teacher who did not let my daughter get away with handing in something late .
I almost feel bad to complain because overall the school has been so nice but this is so awful.
My daughter almost didn’t have her backpack either. When you go in an ambulance to a critical care unit no one is really thinking about arranging all her homework and making sure to print something. We weren’t even home all week. We had other priorities.
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s3nsitivesoul
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 10:57 pm
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Not ok! Please talk to your daughter and let her know this is not normal behavior and that sometimes in life there are people like this. Stress that it’s not her fault and she did nothing wrong.
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 10:59 pm
| amother OP wrote: | I emailed it to her and got a response.
(Cut out w few identifying sentences but essentially this was her email ).
Your daughter knew that the requirement was to hand in her report printed and not have her parents sending it out for her. She is in 6th grade and shouldn’t be dependent on you for her homework. I understand typing does take minimal supervision on your end but it’s her responsibility.
Emailing is a slippery slope and can even lead to parents doing the work for the kids.
Additionally it was assigned on x date 2 weeks ago. The girls were encouraged to hand it in early any time this week. I don’t see why your daughter procrastinating should have excused her. It should have been near completed way before 3 days before due date.
I am sorry to hear that you’re sick but that doesn’t exempt your child from fulfilling her responsibilities and taking it seriously.
If you let her use your medical illness as a crutch, she will make it through middle school not learning and fail high school. Is that where your priorities are? Life doesn’t stop because of illness, she may think that because she gets spoiled from Chai lifeline, Bikkur cholim that she can get whatever she desires and that’s not good for her. She was testing me and now will learn that rules still apply to her. I truly care about your daughters success and am giving her the 0 because she earned it by not handing in her report on time.
Wishing you a refuah Shlayma and please reconsider if you should be coddling your kids like this. |
Omg!!!!!! I have chills..what a bitter teacher ! Also never heard of 6th graders use a computer without parent supervision...I hope this email gets forwarded to the principal...she shouldn't teach our dear children!!
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 10:59 pm
| amother OP wrote: | I emailed it to her and got a response.
(Cut out w few identifying sentences but essentially this was her email ).
Your daughter knew that the requirement was to hand in her report printed and not have her parents sending it out for her. She is in 6th grade and shouldn’t be dependent on you for her homework. I understand typing does take minimal supervision on your end but it’s her responsibility.
Emailing is a slippery slope and can even lead to parents doing the work for the kids.
Additionally it was assigned on x date 2 weeks ago. The girls were encouraged to hand it in early any time this week. I don’t see why your daughter procrastinating should have excused her. It should have been near completed way before 3 days before due date.
I am sorry to hear that you’re sick but that doesn’t exempt your child from fulfilling her responsibilities and taking it seriously.
If you let her use your medical illness as a crutch, she will make it through middle school not learning and fail high school. Is that where your priorities are? Life doesn’t stop because of illness, she may think that because she gets spoiled from Chai lifeline, Bikkur cholim that she can get whatever she desires and that’s not good for her. She was testing me and now will learn that rules still apply to her. I truly care about your daughters success and am giving her the 0 because she earned it by not handing in her report on time.
Wishing you a refuah Shlayma and please reconsider if you should be coddling your kids like this. |
Omg 🤮
Please call the principal immediately
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 11:00 pm
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I'm honestly shocked. I am a teacher and in such a scenario I would hold the student accountable for nothing. I'd also take her under my watch and be there for her. Go to the principal ASAP. Poor girl. Refuah shlemah to you!
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BaltoMom65
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 11:02 pm
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This is horrifying and disgusting. I'm so sorry OP. Please have your husband call the principal. This is just appalling. That teacher is just awful and gross. Unbelievable. And may you be granted a speedy recovery
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 11:02 pm
| amother OP wrote: | I emailed it to her and got a response.
(Cut out w few identifying sentences but essentially this was her email ).
Your daughter knew that the requirement was to hand in her report printed and not have her parents sending it out for her. She is in 6th grade and shouldn’t be dependent on you for her homework. I understand typing does take minimal supervision on your end but it’s her responsibility.
Emailing is a slippery slope and can even lead to parents doing the work for the kids.
Additionally it was assigned on x date 2 weeks ago. The girls were encouraged to hand it in early any time this week. I don’t see why your daughter procrastinating should have excused her. It should have been near completed way before 3 days before due date.
I am sorry to hear that you’re sick but that doesn’t exempt your child from fulfilling her responsibilities and taking it seriously.
If you let her use your medical illness as a crutch, she will make it through middle school not learning and fail high school. Is that where your priorities are? Life doesn’t stop because of illness, she may think that because she gets spoiled from Chai lifeline, Bikkur cholim that she can get whatever she desires and that’s not good for her. She was testing me and now will learn that rules still apply to her. I truly care about your daughters success and am giving her the 0 because she earned it by not handing in her report on time.
Wishing you a refuah Shlayma and please reconsider if you should be coddling your kids like this. |
Okay what in the world??????? My goodness!!!!! When I was in 12th grade my mom got breast cancer and my teachers basically gave me a free pass for a few weeks and were very understanding. I'm so so sorry. I'd be calling the principal at the stroke of 9am.
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oneofakind
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 11:03 pm
Hashem YiRachem . I have no words. She isn't embarrassed/ afraid to put this in writing? Please get the principal involved.
Refuah Sheleima!
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yiddishmom
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 11:05 pm
I'll be DLK"Z that the teacher has her own crisis going on.
That is SUCH a cold letter. Wow!
I mean, just wow!
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 11:06 pm
| amother OP wrote: | I emailed it to her and got a response.
(Cut out w few identifying sentences but essentially this was her email ).
Your daughter knew that the requirement was to hand in her report printed and not have her parents sending it out for her. She is in 6th grade and shouldn’t be dependent on you for her homework. I understand typing does take minimal supervision on your end but it’s her responsibility.
Emailing is a slippery slope and can even lead to parents doing the work for the kids.
Additionally it was assigned on x date 2 weeks ago. The girls were encouraged to hand it in early any time this week. I don’t see why your daughter procrastinating should have excused her. It should have been near completed way before 3 days before due date.
I am sorry to hear that you’re sick but that doesn’t exempt your child from fulfilling her responsibilities and taking it seriously.
If you let her use your medical illness as a crutch, she will make it through middle school not learning and fail high school. Is that where your priorities are? Life doesn’t stop because of illness, she may think that because she gets spoiled from Chai lifeline, Bikkur cholim that she can get whatever she desires and that’s not good for her. She was testing me and now will learn that rules still apply to her. I truly care about your daughters success and am giving her the 0 because she earned it by not handing in her report on time.
Wishing you a refuah Shlayma and please reconsider if you should be coddling your kids like this. |
I'm stunned by the lack of compassion, lack of flexibility, pettiness.
But I'm also curious about the bolded. Why is it easier for a parent to do a kids' paper and email it vs. do a kids' paperwork and print it up for the kid to bring to school? What on earth is she talking about?
The principal needs to see this correspondence. It's NOT okay.
Wishing you a refuah sheleimah, OP.
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yiddishmom
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 11:08 pm
Is she perhaps young, new, and inexperienced?
Maybe she is acting out of fear, insecurity.
It's really beyond me this letter.
Not even "how are you feeling?"
Only in the third paragraph does she mention she feels sorry for your illness. That should be FIRST and Foremost in her letter!
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 11:12 pm
You’re on a ventilator? Oh my gosh 
What a psycho this teacher is.
My Columbia professors excused me from class and let me take exams at home because of a family situation. Ohhhh I just cannot believe this cruelty.
And submitting your paper online is perfectly normal and even required in many places (so they can run it through turnitin, though AI has made this less relevant).
Anyway. Don’t let the teacher get away with this. Maybe she didn’t get enough attention when one of her parents was sick and now she’s taking it out on your daughter.
Even if her paper were late for no reason, she still doesn’t deserve a zero. Good teachers work WITH their students, not against them.
“Coddling her,” my foot. That email should be displayed everywhere.
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amother
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Tue, Nov 26 2024, 11:15 pm
| amother OP wrote: | I emailed it to her and got a response.
(Cut out w few identifying sentences but essentially this was her email ).
Your daughter knew that the requirement was to hand in her report printed and not have her parents sending it out for her. She is in 6th grade and shouldn’t be dependent on you for her homework. I understand typing does take minimal supervision on your end but it’s her responsibility.
Emailing is a slippery slope and can even lead to parents doing the work for the kids.
Additionally it was assigned on x date 2 weeks ago. The girls were encouraged to hand it in early any time this week. I don’t see why your daughter procrastinating should have excused her. It should have been near completed way before 3 days before due date.
I am sorry to hear that you’re sick but that doesn’t exempt your child from fulfilling her responsibilities and taking it seriously.
If you let her use your medical illness as a crutch, she will make it through middle school not learning and fail high school. Is that where your priorities are? Life doesn’t stop because of illness, she may think that because she gets spoiled from Chai lifeline, Bikkur cholim that she can get whatever she desires and that’s not good for her. She was testing me and now will learn that rules still apply to her. I truly care about your daughters success and am giving her the 0 because she earned it by not handing in her report on time.
Wishing you a refuah Shlayma and please reconsider if you should be coddling your kids like this. |
Um.... Is this for real???? I hope not. Please Hashem I hope this isn't true. I would pull my kid out of the class forever.
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