Do you talk in the bathroom- POLL

dena613

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 1:51 pm

Or not talk or respond with words, because it's a Bathroom (halacha)

amother

Yarrow

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 1:52 pm

There is no issue if the toilet is not being used, also only Torah/ Jewish words are an issue.

amother

RosePink

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 2:14 pm

Only learning and words of Torah are an issue. So no, no one in my family learns gives a dvar Torah in the bathroom but yes, we do speak normally otherwise

Molly Weasley ↓

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 2:23 pm

For men, any talk is a problem while it's being "used"

For women, I remember learning that it's not an issue

patzer

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 2:25 pm

Is using the bathroom a family activity?

Who would you be talking to?

behappy2

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 2:28 pm

I do not like when my kids talk to me through the bathroom door. I tell them I will talk when I come out. It feels like an invasion of privacy.

Good Friend

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 2:58 pm

I don’t speak words of Torah or chat, but I have little kids and often when I’m in the bathroom (whether using the bathroom or taking a shower) there are kids calling me, a baby crying, someone got hurt, kids fighting etc so I’m often calling out to them things like I’m coming in a minute, please don’t fight, etc. If the kids are asking me non urgent questions I tell them to wait until I come out.
My husband the same, the kids are little, they talk.

amother

Cerise

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 2:59 pm

behappy2 wrote:

I do not like when my kids talk to me through the bathroom door. I tell them I will talk when I come out. It feels like an invasion of privacy.

This, I won’t have conversations through the bathroom door. I didn’t know it’s a Jewish thing, it just feels impolite and bothersome. (I’ll answer an important question if needed)

amother

Electricblue

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 3:01 pm

...I picked only little kids but honestly mom here ends up talking because as soon as I lock door people start knocking and calling me if I don't say something they will do it whole time no matter how Long I'm there

amother

Bottlebrush ↓

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 3:13 pm

Why do ppl eat in the bath then? You can’t bring food in the bathroom.

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 4:03 pm

amother Bottlebrush wrote:

Why do ppl eat in the bath then? You can’t bring food in the bathroom.

Who eats in the bath???

Also, if the bath is in a separate room, it's not a bathroom ( ironically)

(recent polls notwithstanding Very Happy

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amother

↑ Bottlebrush

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 4:04 pm

Molly Weasley wrote:

Who eats in the bath???

I see from influencers on Instagram making a whole fancy board for their bath and then they show the back of nice candles and board kind of table for the bath. Loaded with food and snacks.

↑ Molly Weasley ↓

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 4:05 pm

amother Bottlebrush wrote:

I see from influencers on Instagram making a whole fancy board for their bath and then they show the back of nice candles and board kind of table for the bath. Loaded with food and snacks.

I don't know who they are or who they asked before deciding what's appropriate.

ra_mom

Fri, Nov 22 2024, 4:11 pm

dena613 wrote:

Or not talk or respond with words, because it's a Bathroom (halacha)

We were taught not to speak words of torah or holy words in the bathroom (no saying baruch Hashem).

The one person I knew who didn't speak in the bathroom was following something from kabalah IIRC, not halacha.

shabbatiscoming

Sat, Nov 23 2024, 11:37 am

Molly Weasley wrote:

For men, any talk is a problem while it's being "used"

For women, I remember learning that it's not an issue

Why the difference for men and women?

DrMom

Sat, Nov 23 2024, 12:05 pm

amother Bottlebrush wrote:

I see from influencers on Instagram making a whole fancy board for their bath and then they show the back of nice candles and board kind of table for the bath. Loaded with food and snacks.

LOL. Who does this ever, let alone on a regular basis? Nero, the Roman emperor?

amother

Caramel

Sat, Nov 23 2024, 2:28 pm

I dont talk in the bathroom.

I do my business and get out.

My husband talks and sings.
It drives me mad.

I tell my kids anything you ask me in thw bathroom will be a no.

amother

Bluebonnet

Sat, Nov 23 2024, 7:13 pm

Not me,

But I think everybody else in my family does

↑ Molly Weasley

Sun, Nov 24 2024, 3:29 pm

shabbatiscoming wrote:

Why the difference for men and women?

For women, the halacha permitted speaking in the bathroom, because of the importance of making men aware of their presence so that they couldn’t claim to have accidentally walked in.