How much does a chassidisha wedding cost?

amother

Lemonchiffon

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 6:50 pm

amother NeonPink wrote:

Furniture $30K
Jewelry $20K /Silver $10K
Wedding hall $15K
Linens and housewares $8K
Appliances $5K
Sheitel/ shtreimel $6K
Shtufeer $5K
Flowers $5K
Music and singer $5K
Photographer and Badchan $5K
Kallah gown $2-5K
Mother of bride and sis of bride dresses $4-10K

Thank you for sharing. This highlights the insanity of it all. Why on earth do two young adults just starting out in life need $20k worth of jewelry and $10k worth of silver.

Why do they need furniture for $30k in their tiny starter apartment?

That in itself is $60k right there!!! I won't even touch upon the others. It's beyond insane to have such societal expectations, even more so now when so many are struggling immensely with finances.

It's beyond insane. It's sickening.

amother

↑ OP

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:18 pm

Can we please try to not to get negative. I really want to see more numbers and if people get negative then more people will not Want to share their numbers. I do understand that some numbers will be below average, some average and some above average.

amother

Mocha ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:26 pm

I’m a SM in the litvish community, been doing wigs for many years. Most Kallahs get 2 wigs plus a fall or pony or some 3rd throw around. But since inflation has hit the crazy numbers it has I’ve had more and more kallahs getting 1 wig and 1 fall. And that’s FINE!!! They are the same much married Smile

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That would total around 3800-4200 with both wigs

amother

↑ Mocha

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:27 pm

Also 30k on furniture is kinda a funny joke if your on yad shniah of similar and you see young couples posting their bedroom sets with like 8 pieces that’s the parents from spent 10k on and no one even wants it for $1500..
don’t spoil young kids. They don’t know what they want

amother

↑ NeonPink

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:29 pm

OP did you schedule in a tekanos hall or something else?

There's a huge difference there.
It usually includes the flowers, singer, photographer, and badchen.

Chasuna malls aren't cheaper than buying in other places.

amother

Broom

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:49 pm

I got married 3+ years ago satmar and my wedding was around 70K and very very standared nothing fancy at all.
Also take in mind the williamsburg apartment hunt is insane so my parents paid 3/4 months rent b4 my wedding to be secure with the apartment - and it still needed alot of work which also costed a lot of money..

qwerty4

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 7:52 pm

amother NeonPink wrote:

15K per side for the wedding hall alone?
That jumped out at me Smile

I need to go through the list more in detail

amother

Crimson

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 8:06 pm

amother NeonPink wrote:

Curious what is 20k in Jewelry for a Kallahs side to buy the Chosson?

Also wigs are unfortunately more than $6k at this point for 3 nice wigs.

amother

Obsidian

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 8:09 pm

amother Slategray wrote:

Yes, it is. Wedding is in a tekunah hall, lots of stuff second hand. I agree the standard is insane. Why do couples need italian furniture?? They can get beautiful sets at ikea. When they can afford it they can buy, id they want. Why do they need high end dishes? Its insane.

How is Italian furniture bare bones?

amother

Hawthorn

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 8:19 pm

amother OP wrote:

If you recently married off your child how much did the wedding cost?
Also where was the wedding and what is the breakdown?
I would like to know the entire total, including the wedding night, setting up the apartment, Sheva brochos and gifts. Everything

Having made quite a few chassanas, don't try to figure it out. Just do what you have to do in your pay bracket and let Hashem take care of it. With every Simcha comes a brochoh and I really saw that happen. If you try to figure out where you will get the 100,000's, the math doesn't work.

amother

Maple

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 8:42 pm

A lot of things depend on city. Parents married off in Monsey and BP. BP was cheap hall - the price per side was what the price for both sides together was in Monsey…

amother

↑ Aquamarine ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 9:02 pm

amother NeonPink wrote:

30k for furniture???? That is absolutely insane. I'm a BT. No one bought us any furniture. Been married almost 10 years and we finally have some nicer quality items. People seriously need to get their heads on straight.

amother

↑ Aquamarine ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 9:04 pm

amother Lemonchiffon wrote:

I couldn't agree more!

amother

↑ Aquamarine ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 9:05 pm

Do ppl have 1000 ppl by their wedding? Is that why it's so expensive? My wedding was around 25k almost 10 years ago. I'm actually sick looking at these numbers!

amother

Kiwi

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 9:12 pm

This is ridiculous.

My wedding all in both sides 15 years ago was 30k. I imagine with inflation it would be 40k now.

It was a nice takana hall, very simple gifts, second hand free furniture, gown from a gmach, housewares from Walmart and target.

If ur rich sure go crazy. If ur not then grow up and stop pretending to be.

amother

Lily

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 9:22 pm

amother NeonPink wrote:

Depends if they are continental people or not

I'm satmar, only 1 classmate had a continental wedding. It's for the higher end, definitely not the norm.

amother

Purple ↓

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 9:41 pm

amother NeonPink wrote:

Wait I don't get it.

This is all PER SIDE???? $60,000 in furniture? $5k for flowers for each side??? Appliances $10,000 - what appliances does a young couple need????

Oh wait, the same side is not buying jewelry AND a kallah gown. Something is wrong with these numbers.

talented

Mon, Nov 11 2024, 9:42 pm

Not sure where ypu are taking these numbers from.. I can argue each one . Ibdidnt total it.. and I have no clue whatsoever what marrying off my 3 children cost.
But these numbers are pretty insane for average people.
And also why does everyone only tale issue with silver, jewelry and furniture? (Which I doubt anyone is paying these days... about 15 years ago people did $20-24, 000 sets) not Mayne only the very wealthy. It's not the norm. These are actually long term items.
Why in the world does a kallahs gown amd the mechiteneste gown have to be rented no less... for for one night.. at these insane prices?
But again
. It is possible to spend way less..
But then again there are so many expenses not listed here...