So grossed out - am I overreacting?

↑ Ema of 5 ↓

Thu, Nov 07 2024, 9:53 pm

amother Slateblue wrote:

Neigal vasser cups need to be washed well often even if you never pee in them. They get mildew or something uchy and slimy. Need good scrubbing !

🤷‍♀️ I’m married close to 20 years and have never had an issue. They just dry out.

amother

Whitesmoke

Thu, Nov 07 2024, 9:53 pm

At least he didn’t pee in the bath this time. Otherwise you’d be washing his hair with pee…
My kids have peed in the bath so many times, I probably don’t know half the time

amother

Lime

Thu, Nov 07 2024, 10:01 pm

Yes you are overreacting.
Kids, girls and boys, pee in the bath. You wouldn't even know most of the time.
Urine is usually sterile and not full of germs like poop.
Just wash the cup with soap and water.
Everyone will live.

amother

↑ Forestgreen ↓

Thu, Nov 07 2024, 10:22 pm

amother Daylily wrote:

I’ll be the odd one out and say it’s terrible chinuch to lead a child to think it’s okay to pee into containers that will then be used for other purposes, especially ones that are hygiene or kodesh or food related

Why is it terrible chinuch? You wash out the cup, it's really not that big of a deal. It's obviously being done in an emergency situation, & not as the regular arrangement.

kenz ↓

Thu, Nov 07 2024, 10:25 pm

I’ll be the second dissenter. I have always had my sons climb out of the bath if they needed the bathroom in the middle. If they’re old enough to say they need it, they’re old enough to come out and go properly. I would not want to use a negel vasser cup that was used as a portable potty, and I can’t see my husband ever advocating such a thing either. Gross.
And of course accidents happen. I empty the bath and refill.

amother

↑ Forestgreen ↓

Thu, Nov 07 2024, 10:38 pm

kenz wrote:

This was a toddler that was starting to pee already so husband grabbed a cup to catch the pee. Nothing wrong with this.

↑ Ema of 5

Thu, Nov 07 2024, 11:56 pm

kenz wrote:

Chances are your kids have gone in the water when sitting down, and you just didn’t know about it.

DrMom

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 12:05 am

I don't think it's a big hygiene issue (just wash with soap and water), but it's disrespectful to use as a urinal something used for a mitzvah.

Sewsew_mom ↓

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 12:23 am

I mean.. You can get a new cup. Or a new husband. Whichever is cheaper.
Your husband was bathing your child. I would keep the husband.

Ma3

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 12:45 am

Sewsew_mom wrote:

I mean.. You can get a new cup. Or a new husband. Whichever is cheaper.
Your husband was bathing your child. I would keep the husband.

Love this one!!!! LOL

Personally, I don't think you overreacted. I would be grossed out as well. Your husband handled it properly on his end. You can just ask that he not do it again if it's that horrible for you. I would've said that. I don't want kids peeing in cups. I find that then they automatically need to pee in a cup during every bath. Becomes a habit. Ewww. I would be grossed out too!

amother

↑ Daylily

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 12:07 pm

amother Forestgreen wrote:

Why is it terrible chinuch? You wash out the cup, it's really not that big of a deal. It's obviously being done in an emergency situation, & not as the regular arrangement.

This is a toddler, who is now being shown that all kinds of containers around the house are suddenly potential urinals. No thank you.

That being said, I wouldn’t be angry at DH if he did this, it was clearly a split second decision. We’d probably laugh about it together later.

amother

Honeysuckle

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 12:35 pm

Sewsew_mom wrote:

I mean.. You can get a new cup. Or a new husband. Whichever is cheaper.
Your husband was bathing your child. I would keep the husband.

No, he was bathing his child.

↑ Sewsew_mom

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 1:00 pm

amother Honeysuckle wrote:

No, he was bathing his child.

Your not wrong.. Neither was I.
It's his and her child.
Although I get the point you're bringing out. 😬

amother

↑ Forestgreen

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 1:10 pm

amother Daylily wrote:

It's a toddler that's being shown that we improvise in an emergency.
I think most parents have had their kids pee in unconventional places in an emergency.

octopus

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 1:20 pm

Sewsew_mom wrote:

I mean.. You can get a new cup. Or a new husband. Whichever is cheaper.
Your husband was bathing your child. I would keep the husband.

Haha!! Cutest funniest post!!

amother

Electricblue

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 1:38 pm

Classic example of men are from Mars and women are from venus.

amother

Opal

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 1:42 pm

I get why that can seem gross, but it's really not a big deal, don't over think it!

Just wash out the cup, and remember that it's better in the cup than bathing in urine.

amother

Natural

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 1:51 pm

amother OP wrote:

DH was giving our toddler a bath and he started to pee. He didn't want to change the bathwater so he gave him a negel vasser cup to make in. I find that so gross and was really upset with him. Am I overreacting or not?

Yes

amother

↑ Slateblue

Fri, Nov 08 2024, 2:12 pm

Lol. Thought of thread. When a massive poop appeared in tub little bit ago. Nope hubby wasn't home. Kids who had already been washed where evacuated . Culprit put on toilet. Yup I grabbed negal vaser cup already in tub to deal with damage. Let water out cleaned out tub and cup and went on with next bath.
Lol. I would be grossed out by kid peeing in cup LOL

↑ kenz

Sat, Nov 09 2024, 7:46 pm

Ema of 5 wrote:

Chances are your kids have gone in the water when sitting down, and you just didn’t know about it.

Oh, for sure. But that doesn’t mean it’s not gross.